10 Anxiety Busters to Help You Stay Cool, Calm and Collected

Family life, despite all its blessings, can take its toll on our mental health. Here’s 10 quick and easy ways to help you curb anxiety, manage stress and stay centred.

1. Breath away anxiety

Okay, so we’ve all heard this one before, but learning to control our breathing really can help us to relax. Here’s a simple breathing exercise you can do whenever you feel a spurt of panic coming on, or tension building up inside:

Close your eyes and focus only on your breathing. Inhale slowly through your nose. Feel your diaphragm move up into your ribcage and extend your belly outward as you inhale. Slowly push out your breathe as you exhale through your mouth. Feel the stress being breathed out of your body and visualise it leaving your body. Each breath should take 6 seconds to complete. Spend 3 seconds slowly inhaling through your nose and the other 3 seconds slowly exhaling through your mouth. Take 5-10 breaths like this and you’ll instantly feel more relaxed.

2. Drink green tea instead of coffee

Caffeine is a mood stimulant. It heightens our moods, which is why we feel charged after our morning cappuccino. But the crash we experience once the caffeine has worn off can invite anxiety and depression into our general sense of being. Although green tea contains caffeine, it also contains amino acid L-theanine which promotes relaxation and modifies the stimulating effects of the caffeine present. L-theanine is a caffeine antagonist, if you like, in that it offsets the “hyper” effect of caffeine. Green tea contains more theanine than the other teas. Try drinking Green tea for a more calming and gradual wake up boost instead of coffee.

3. Have a catnap

When we are sleep deprived we not only feel exhausted, accident-prone and forgetful, but irritable too. Lack of sleep can also make our body crave food even when we’re full, which in itself can bring on more stress. Nanna was on to something with her afternoon naps, a cat nap can recharge your batteries and clear your mind. Even if you don’t fall asleep, just lying down and closing your eyes for 15mins can do wonders for your mental health.

4. Phone your BFF

A friend can be a lifesaver when you feel yourself drowning in a sea of family life stress. A trouble shared really is a trouble halved and by chatting to your friend about what’s on your mind, you dissipate the energy around it and lessen the effect it has on you. Your friend will probably have some good advice and if she doesn’t, you can both have a good laugh about it (see below).

5. Have a giggle

Research has found a good cackle releases endorphins (feel-good hormones) into your system. Watch your favourite funny movie over again, or think of something silly your child said that always cracks you up and get those endorphins swimming throughout your body.

6. Put it in writing

Feel like you’re about to blow? Sometimes indulging in a good journal rant, or writing your feelings down in a letter that you never send, is just what you need to do to physically get rid of unwanted emotions. But don’t spend too long doing this though, as you don’t want to meditate on negativity, simply let your anxiety spill out in front of you and feel it leaving your mind once the words are on the page and off your chest.

7. Get rid of clutter

Clutter creates a sense of confusion and chaos. By cleaning up your home, you’re essentially clearing out the clutter from your mind. Pick the one area in the house that always makes you feel better when it’s tidy (for me this is the kitchen bench) and give it a five minute spruce up.

8. Walk off your worries

A brisk walk will clear your mind, get your heart rate pumping and your blood circulating throughout your body. Try to think about your breathing as you walk, concentrate on each breath and empty your mind of thoughts. If you can, go for a walk near water, it has a calming effect and is good for the soul.

9. Indulge in a foot bath

Fill up a large bowl with warm water and indulge in a foot bath. If you like, add some bath salts or essential oils to enhance this relaxing experience. Put on calming music and sit in a comfy chair with your eyes closed while you soothe your cares with this moment of Zen. Do this after you’ve tucked your kids into bed to really make the most of this uninterrupted me-time.

10. Aromatherapy

Essential oils such as lavender, chamomile, ylang ylang, clary sage, bergamot, frankincense, and sandalwood are often used in relaxation aromatherapy. Adding a few drops of these essential oils to an oil burner at home, or on a hanky that you carry with you when out and about will help you invite calm into your life.

What’s your favourite way to recharge?

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This article was written for Kidspot Australia and is published here with permission.


  1. Alezandra 03/03/2019 at 10:20 pm

    I think I need this list. I want to do at lease one of these each day. It was an education to learn about green tea, this might e something to explore instead of grabbing that coffee. And something as easy as breathing that we take for granted is something we have to work on with intention.

  2. felicity beets 02/03/2019 at 8:00 pm

    Daytime naps – when you get the chance, are awesome. Need to also work on the decluttering to feel more calm

  3. kymmage 28/02/2019 at 8:33 pm

    I get a heap of anxiety, especially when school is in! I have to get up, make lunches, sort breakfasts, often leave before my kids are up. Work, collect children, help with homework, cook dinner and put them to bed. I often get no time just to myself and that is hard. I have taken up walking in the evening with my eldest and swimming when we can too. I’m still not alone but it’s a work in progress.

  4. MuddledUpMolly 27/02/2019 at 3:53 pm

    Anxiety seems to be so common these days and that is awful 🙁 My sister and mum suffer from anxiety and I feel for them both as it is not an emotion or experience I have had to deal with often. There are some great practical tips here to manage it.

  5. dawnblyth 27/02/2019 at 10:57 am

    Great ideas. I like the read or watch some TV. Spending time with friends and family is also a great way to destress

  6. SarahBlair 26/02/2019 at 2:34 pm

    such great ideas, I really need to put a few of these into practice, somedays I feel so overwhelmed and like I just need a break, I like to have a hot bath, read a book or put on some music and shut the world out when I start to feel like that

  7. Shorrty4life1 13/02/2019 at 12:36 pm

    Great ideas. My daughter gets separation anxiety when she goes to school etc or anywhere away from me. He cries saying she has a headache and sore belly. I’m really positive and tell her let’s get you up have breakfast and today is going to be an amazing day so let’s sit in the sun and have breakfast together. Soon after she’s happy and forgot about it. If she’s not busy that’s when it all turns to custard. I myself sometimes get anxiety while studying in a classroom up high. I start panicking. I will definitely try some of these techniques next time me and my daughter come to this again

  8. Jen_Wiig 13/02/2019 at 12:34 pm

    Anxiety is my demon unfortunately and its so so annoying i can get anxious in the most weirdest places and scenarios and literally just have to ride the wave until it passes, my recharge for anxiety at the moment is CBD oil and has been the only thing thats genuinely helped. I feel anxious i take 2 drops and within 10mins max less anxious and able to clearly deal with the anxiety.
    Deff truth to the drink less caffeine and also sugar ridden drinks like energy drinks… I used to live off these and my anxiety though i wasnt aware at time was through the roof, now that ive cut it out of diet its much more manageable

  9. Mands1980 06/02/2019 at 10:02 am

    I find these are great ideas I’m sure most of us have some form of anxiety including children it seems to be very common and if we can all use these ideas they will really help us in the long run. My daughter has a diary and writes things in it. I like to have the oil burner going too it’s so nice with the smells and relaxing and concentrating on breathing.

  10. Bevik1971 06/02/2019 at 9:30 am

    These are all great ideas 😁 For me breathing properly is essential, I tend to hold my breath and shallow breath a lot. So I train myself to breath from my stomach and not my chest (hyperventilation syndrome is the name for shallow breathing). This is great for anxiety and a way of meditation. My partner and I and our 6 year old are going to have 15 mins each evening to do some meditation and breathing together 😊

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