What to Expect From a Play Date

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It’s really important for children to learn to play alongside, and then with, other children. They learn important skills such as sharing, co-operative play, taking turns, problem solving, and communication and playdates are a great way to facilitate this.

Playdates are often also an opportunity for parents to make new friends too.

A playdate is meant to be fun – but sometimes the reality does not quite match the expectation. Find out how to help ensure your next play date goes well.

Realistic expectations

You will already know that your child can be unpredictable at times – and this is certainly the case when they are confronted with a new environment. Your child is still learning so don’t expect that they will skip off to play together and leave you to your cup of coffee and a chat.

For younger children you will probably see them play alongside each other rather than with each other. As they get a bit older this will change but first up they may like to just chill out in the same room and near you.

Plan ahead

If you are hosting a play date, have a think about some of the things that might go wrong and see if you can put plans in place to avoid them.

You are probably best to only have just one child over at first, or a larger group – avoid a group of three as it’s easy for one to be left out of any joint play.

Make it clear to the other child’s parent or caregiver if you expect them to stay for a cuppa or if they are OK to head away. If they are going to leave make sure you have their mobile number. Work together to find a time period that best works around any daytime naps and set the expectation that the date will last one to two hours maximum. Keep it short and sweet so that the kids are keen to do it again.

Prepare some snacks but check any food allergies or intolerances first.

Understand that other people’s children may have different rules to yours so move anything precious, breakable or dangerous.

Have a chat with your child about who is coming over, give them some ideas of what they might like to do together, and check with them if they have any toys they are not willing to share (or decide that yourself). Pop those toys away for the duration of the play date.

When your guests arrive introduce them to everyone else in the house and make sure they know where the toilet and handbasin is.

Plan some activities in advance and have something ready for them to get started on. Its probably best for them to start off near the parents but you could set up toys in another room that they can migrate to when they are ready.

Be prepared to help the children get started – give them some ideas for play and encourage them to contribute.

Toys that are ideal for alongside or joint play

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Barbie 3-in-1 Dream Camper: When kids hit the open road in the Barbie 3-in-1 Dream Camper, their stories can go wherever their imaginations lead! Multiple transformations and hidden surprises make playtime exciting. Give the bright pink camper a push to get the fun rolling.

Lego City Central Airport: Fans of toy planes will love this LEGO City building set featuring an airport terminal, charter plane, luggage truck, fuel tanker and six minifigures.

Trolls World Tour Poppy’s Microphone: In the movie Trolls World Tour, DreamWorks Queen Poppy and her friends go on an epic, Trolls-tastic journey to save all music. Now kids can have the fun of singing along with Poppy and her friends with Poppy’s Microphone.

Fisher Price skyway

Little People Take Turns Skyway
With three different tracks, an awesome launcher, cool racing sounds and phrases, and pretend play stops along the way, this track set is loaded with awesome racing fun for toddlers to discover and share.

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Classic kitchen with accessories

Classic Kitchen with accessories
Encourage creative roleplay and imagination filled play with this fun wooden kitchen. Pretend to tell stories, work collaboratively and
develop communication skills, all while having fun!

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Thomas The Tank Engine TrackMaster Track Bucket

Multiple layouts and the convenience of connecting to other TrackMaster train sets (sold separately and subject to availability) all make this glowing Thomas & Friends track pack the perfect toy to expand kids’ imaginations!.

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Going on a play date

It’s exciting when your child is invited on a play date and you want it to go well, so a bit of planning before you go will help make it a success.

Give your child as much information as you can about where they are going, who is going to be there, and the names of other children and adults. Talk to them about using ‘gentle hands’ and other behaviour rules you have, and that you will give them the ‘five minute warning’ when it’s nearly time to leave. Tell them what the consequences will be if they don’t follow the rules – and make sure you follow through!

Let your host know if your child has food allergies or intolerances, or better still, bring a plate of food to share.

The first time your child goes to a play date at that person’s home it’s best if you stay with them. If you leave your child there let them know that you are going, that you will be back, and that the other parent knows how to get in touch with you.

4 Comments

  1. Micht 07/03/2020 at 6:32 am

    The one thing i always forget to do is ask bout allergies and food restrictions and its the one thing i get caught out with the most for both adults and kids… i think its something that doesnt come naturally for me…but somethin i need to actively work on to improve…

  2. Mands1980 02/03/2020 at 8:07 pm

    I have never really enjoyed play dates but now the kids are getting older it seems to get easier as they make up there own entertainment. Some play dates end up being a sleepover now. We just do them in the weekends when it’s a bit quieter. Some play dates can end up with fights which I really can’t be bothered with but as long as they are not tired it seems to work out better.

  3. Bevik1971 27/02/2020 at 11:14 am

    We have always been really fussy about play dates with our daughter right from a young age. I’m not the type of person who will just let my daughter go to some strangers house (the kids know each other, but what about the parents?) after school etc. I also don’t really agree with the parents arranging the play date for their kids eg the parents suggest the play date then arrange it, too bad if the kids didn’t agree! I think if my daughter wants to go a on a play date with one of her friends she would let me know 🙂

  4. Shorrty4life1 26/02/2020 at 4:06 pm

    I loathe play dates. I would rather just chill without having to do the clicky stuff like this. I did do a playdate one time for my son and his friend. The friend’s mum brought over so much food and we brought food for it aswell so we were inundated with party type food for 3 children and two adults for afternoon tea lol. Then the kid packed a hissy fit and started flipping out at my house so after that we sort of gave up on that idea and haven’t had play dates at our house since. And it was kind of awkward because his mum wanted to be shown around my house wanting to know everything about me also.

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