When puberty moves in

I can’t tell you I’m an expert when it comes to puberty. I have been through it once myself which is a terrible sample size, scientifically speaking. I have one child who is on the cusp of it. The cusp is a scary sort of place to be as a parent. You hear the stories and you wonder what it will be like “when the hormones hit”.  In fact, as a parent to a girl, I have been warned many times since birth about these hormones and how horrific the teenage years are.

I was a teenager once too

I remember being a teenager. I remember feelings of anxiety, pouring out of me in anger and yelling. I remember feeling like I didn’t really fit into any of the school groups. This resulted in loud music and poetry. I may have hang on the phone a bit long, though I don’t remember ever spending more than five minutes getting ready to go anywhere. I didn’t sneak out at night, and none of the screaming lasted more than that moment of frustration or worry.

Because we are on the cusp of this puberty journey with my eldest, I have been trying to carve out extra time with her. I tell her tales of my teenage years, and what things were like for me. I hope that doing this helps her know that some of the things that are coming, are normal and okay. I hope it also helps her see me as an open person she can always talk to.

Time for deodorant

Recently, one small change has happened. It brought this memory flooding into my mind. Back in the early 90s I was at school and someone unkindly pointed out that I stunk. I say unkindly because they seemed very pleased after passing this information onto me.  I was mortified and kept to myself the rest of the day. I don’t remember the logistics of it, but I know I soon had a bottle of Impulse to spritz around.

When I noticed a faint smell after a long and sweaty hike with her, I mentioned a mummy/daughter trip to the supermarket to check out the deodorants. I thought I knew what kind of scent she’d be after, but of course she surprised me by wanting something that they didn’t stock! Instead she sat on the floor by the huge array and quite overwhelmed, smelt every one I handed to her. After sniffing approximately 26, she settled on one with an oddly grown up name that makes her giggle a lot.

She’s still a wee bit unsure about it.  Applying it is still awkward and unnatural to her.  The sensation of it, is an oddness that stays under her arm all day.  But more than that, it’s a marker that time is moving on.  It’s a big neon light saying “these carefree childhood days are almost gone”. She is sensitive and feels it coming like a freight train. I know it will be a slow trip for her, but it doesn’t always feel like it. If I could slow it down for her I would.

The journey into puberty

I don’t know what kind of teen she will be. But I know she can’t be anything but herself as she traipses into this foreign land of puberty. I often think that when this child who I know and love becomes a teenager, it might not be as bad as everyone says. She is an amazing human already.  Chances are she’ll be more her by the end, than she is now.

This blog was written by Kym Moore.



  1. UKmum 11/05/2018 at 11:06 am

    Hi Kjgee

    Can you please tell me the website you bought the natural deodorant from.
    My 9 year old daughter and I have been looking at website selling natural deodorants, but she not sure which deodorant to choose and doesn’t want to ask one of her friends.

  2. kymmage 30/03/2018 at 11:25 pm

    The roll on stays sticky for a while and the sensation hasn’t been very welcome. I thought the only options were roll on and spray. Nearly 40, but learning new things every day. thanks everyone for your comments, very helpful.

  3. SarahBlair 24/03/2018 at 11:28 pm

    I have done the puberty thing four times with my kids now. I find that talking is the most important thing, and if you talk about the small things (how was your day? What did you do at school? even how many sibling does you friend have?), they will talk about the big things. While the physical changes are a big deal, the emotional things are the ones that take you by surprise. Keeping those lines of communication open is really important!

  4. Mands1980 13/03/2018 at 7:30 pm

    Yes girls are hard work my 9 year old is and she isn’t even a teenager it’s a scary thought what she will be like. I have already bought both my eldest deodorant and they are getting used to the idea of using it. I am trying to be very open with my children about the whole puberty talks as I feel it’s important these days.

  5. Bevik1971 05/03/2018 at 4:21 pm

    Oh crumbs I’ve done the puberty thing with a son (he’s now 24) but we have a 5 year old and have the girl puberty to look forward too hehe. I’m going to be super open and honest with our daughter so she feels she can ask me anything 🙂 We will be using an all natural organic deodorant for our daughter (we currently both use one and it’s great). I definitely do not want her being picked on at school for anything like body odour

  6. Kjgee 02/03/2018 at 5:04 pm

    My eldest is 10 and she is fairly outdoorsy and sporty and moving all. the. time. So recently we needed to buy her deodorant- we talked about it and she decided to go with what I use – a natural deo rather than an antiperspirant. I involved her in the process of going online to look at the ingredients and buy it, online of course we couldn’t smell it! But something I didn’t get to do anyhow, I remember back to it just being bought for me and waiting on my bed . I like MissKay want to be more open with my kids and want to communicate more with them than I had – a lot I learnt was from health class too!

  7. Misskay80 02/03/2018 at 2:05 pm

    I think back to when I went through puberty, most of what I learnt was through health class at school. My mother was a bit old school and didn’t really discuss things too much. I am hoping to have a bit more of an open relationship with my two girls as they get older (Hopefully I have a few years yet!).

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