9 Tips To Help Kids Prepare For Tests

We all know that teenagers sit some epic exams, particularly at the end of the school year. But don’t forget that primary and intermediate children also face regular tests that could bring just as much stress for them. How can parents help their children cope with these?

Test skills

Most of the test-doing skills, such as time management, reading through questions and knowing what to expect, will be taught by teachers.

But parents can also help their children face the pressure of tests and exams.

The experts at KidsMatter have a whole lot of strategies for parents. Many children, they say, will cope well with the challenge of tests, exams and assessments but parents and carers should be aware of how their responses can add to, or relieve, the pressure felt by children.

Common behaviours when children feel nervous or stressed

Sometimes children tell us how they are feeling through their behaviour, says KidsMatter.

These changes in behaviour could indicate stress or nervousness:

  • being more irritable
  • easily upset
  • clingy or fidgety
  • displaying less interest in activities they normally enjoy

“Some children can find it difficult to put into words how they are feeling, so it is often up to parents and carers to recognise that their child needs some extra support.” says KidsMatter.

What can parents do to help?

1.Being there’ emotionally – During times of stress, children usually need extra nurturing, comfort and understanding from their parents and carers to help them feel secure and confident. Be open and receptive to how children are feeling as well as provide comfort and attention when needed.

2. Discuss feelings – Encourage children to talk about how they feel. Listen with empathy so they feel understood and know that their feelings are normal. Help your children to understand that talking about feelings can help to manage them.

3. Support children’s confidence – Teach children to be brave by showing them you believe they can do it, and encourage them to ‘have a go’ even if they are feeling nervous. Providing positive feedback for effort, celebrating successes and encouraging them to keep trying will help your children to feel confident in approaching assessments.

4. Help with relaxation skills – Breathing slowly to calm down and helping them to imagine themselves coping well during a test are really helpful ways of managing anxiety. Doing it with them is a fun way to start.

5. Teach helpful thinking – Instead of saying to themselves ‘I can’t do this’ encourage them to say ‘I’ll give it a go’.

6. Lead by example – Show your child how you cope positively with feeling anxious or stressed by thinking out loud e.g., “I feel a bit nervous, but I’m going to try my best”. Remaining calm and positive when your child is feeling anxious can help them to feel more confident.

7. Help your child have clear expectations – Talking through what will happen. You may even wish to talk to the school about where the test will take place and see if you can visit beforehand.

8. Discuss problem-solving – Brainstorm situations that might arise during the test and then come up with possible solutions with them. For example, ask them what are three things that they might be able to do if they freeze in the exam and feel sick – possible strategies include taking 10 slow breaths to calm down and refocus, taking a sip of water if it is available or letting a teacher know they feel unwell.

9. Teach confidence-building tricks – For example, looking through the paper and completing questions they know they can answer first before trying more difficult ones.

If you’re still worried

If you feel your child’s level of stress or anxiety becomes excessive then some options to consider are:

  • Talk with your child’s classroom teacher about how your child is managing at school and the resources your school can offer.
  • Talk with your GP or paediatrician who can help to explore what is happening for the child and family and also provide referrals to other practitioners who may be able to help if necessary.


  1. Angelgirl081 27/11/2017 at 7:09 pm

    I have shared these great tips with my mum as I have a little sister doing NCEA exams next year who also suffers from anxiety so this may be helpful tips.

  2. Mands1980 18/11/2017 at 9:00 am

    This is a great article as I have one primary aged boy who does tests soon and they do get nervous and not want to do them even at this young age. Encouraging there confidence is the main thing and just talking to them about tests

  3. Jaqui 15/11/2017 at 11:53 pm

    This is a great article! My daughter at 5 who has just started school has already had a big set of formal test done. I was gobsmacked it starts so early!

  4. kymmage 12/11/2017 at 8:01 pm

    Wow. This has totally opened my eyes. I mean, I knew they were doing testing at the moment for levels and National Standards at Primary, but I didn’t think about how that might feel for them. Thank you so much. It actually explains a little bit of the overly emotional reactions I have had this week! Ekk. And I do wonder (since I don’t do well in testing situations) if maybe that explains some of the results I have seen – particularly from one who has been blitzing reading at home all year…

  5. SarahBlair 11/11/2017 at 11:50 pm

    This is a very timely article with my 16 year old sitting her end of year exams at the moment! She has been even more irritable and upset than usual with the stress so the tips on what parents can do to help are very useful!

  6. MuddledUpMolly 08/11/2017 at 12:34 pm

    I love this article and have never read one which is directed at younger children. Our seven year old son is starting to encounter more frequent testing at school so it is great to learn that we are doing most of these things to support his learning and changing educational expectations.

  7. Bevik1971 08/11/2017 at 10:38 am

    I remember tests at school with dread. My son was a bit the same as me and really didn’t enjoy tests as he wasn’t good at studying and I tried my best to help him back then. My 4 year old will have this to deal with in a few years time so will try very hard to ensure she is as stress free as possible.

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