Dad barred from mall parents room

Ever feel like society is taking one step forward and two steps back when it comes to equality and parenting without judgement? Tua Fa’avale, father of baby girl Tahani, entered the parents room at Queensgate Mall in Lower Hutt to change his three month old’s nappy but, as reported by, was told by another parent that he had no right to be in the room as there were women breastfeeding present (in private cubicles).

Judgement from other parents

The news regularly reports on staff from cafes, restaurants and businesses making inappropriate and outdated comments or suggestions about where and how mums can breastfeed. But to cop judgement from another parent about who can and can’t use a PARENTS ROOM really is, as Tua says, “disheartening”.

Unfortunately, judging by some of the comments on the Stuff Facebook page, this is by no means a one-off for dads who are trying to care for their kids.

Just a few bad apples?

However, there is light at the end of the tunnel. The comments overwhelmingly condemn the woman’s comments and are supportive of the dad. Perhaps, we just need to weed out the rotten apples?

Have you, or your partner, ever had a similar issue using a parents room?

This article was written by Julie Scanlon, Editor for Kidspot NZ.

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  1. Bevik1971 14/08/2018 at 4:13 pm

    My partner has been stay at home Dad to our daughter since she was 6 months old – actually he stayed away from public places for just that. He was frowned at by a woman once when he went into the parents room in the local mall – it’s not marked ladies it’s a family room, so that put him off. I think it’s dumb, family or parent rooms are just that not just for the Mother! Wonder why not as many guys are doing the Stay at home Dad thing?

  2. Mands1980 10/08/2018 at 8:14 pm

    Wow I just read about this today I really felt for him as it’s not just Mums who look after babies some dads are the full time carer while mum works. Some Mums are so backwards in there thinking I think if he didn’t have a baby and went in it’s completely different but he obviously had a wee 3 month old baby!!!

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