Book Review | Once There Was by Kiyash Monsef

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Discover a world of extraordinary beasts and unexpected heroes in Once There Was, the dazzling debut from New York Times ​bestselling author Kiyash Monsef.

Once was, once wasn’t …

So began the stories Marjan’s father told her as a little girl – tales of mythical beasts that filled her with curiosity and wonder: Griffons. Unicorns. Dragons.

But Marjan is not a little girl anymore. After her father’s sudden death, she is trying to hold it all together: her schoolwork, her friendships and her dad’s struggling veterinary practice. But a mysterious visitor soon reveals that Marjan’s father was no ordinary vet. The creatures from his stories are real – and he travelled the world to care for them.

Stepping into a secret world hidden in plain sight, where magical creatures are bought and sold, treasured and trapped, Marjan must take her father’s place. The deeper in she gets, the closer she comes to a shocking truth that will put both humans and beasts in terrible danger.

Once There Was is perfect for readers aged 9+ and fans of Philip Pullman, Neil Gaiman, J.K. Rowling and A.F. Steadman.

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Holly, age 14

Once There Was is a magical novel about Marjan, a girl who discovers that her father was secretly a veterinarian to magical creatures. After his death she finds that she must take up his job, despite the many dangers.

This book was a great page turner and I always had to keep reading. I especially loved all the fantastic magical beasts and Marjan’s fearless nature.

This book is definitely at 10/10. I would recommend this novel to anyone who loves fantasy and magic.

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Ellen, age 14

Hi my name is Ellen and I had the pleasure of reading Once There Was, the latest book from Kiyash Monsef. The story begins with a fairytale that Marjan, the main character, was told by her father when she was young. The next chapter skips to her at 15 years old, the new owner of her dad’s vet clinic. A role she has had to take on after becoming an orphan as her mother passed from cancer when she was 7, then her father mysteriously dies. The chapters alternate between her father’s tales and her current situation running her father’s struggling vet clinic.

Once There Was book review

Marjan struggles with the responsibilities of the vet clinic, all while trying to survive high school. Until a peculiar visitor arrives and persuades Marjan to travel to the UK, where she discovers all of her dad’s fairytales were real.

I think that this book would suit readers aged 11 years and above, who are interested in fantasy and make-believe.

I give this book a 7.5/10. Thank You to Kidspot to dive into this mystical and creative story.

Niam, age 13

Hello, My name is Niamh and this is my review on the book Once There Was by Kiyash Monsef.

This story is about a young girl named Marjan, who is coping with the sudden death of her father. She is pulled into the world of her father’s stories after a fateful trip to England.

Now, in her father’s place, as a vet for creatures of the imagination, with a magical room mate and runaway unicorn, Marjan has to save them all from the terrible truth that could alter the future for everyone’s existence.

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The author has done an outstanding job at making loveable characters that make the story all the better. The setting is always changing, never the same place twice, it just makes the story so exciting. The story is so moving and capturing it makes you want to keep reading.

I believe this book is aimed at the age group 10-15, because it is quite long and maybe a bit mature for too young of a reader.

I would rate this book a 4.5 out of 5 and would place it in the top 20 of my favourite books. It is an amazing book that everyone should read. Thank you for reading my review!

Zara, age 12

Kia ora. My name is Zara and I’m 12 years old.

A few weeks ago I received a book in the post, called Once There Was, written by Kiyash Monsef. You might already know that mythical creatures aren’t real but this fictional book really made you second guess yourself. Some of my favourite themes in the book were courage, good versus evil, betrayal and revenge.

If I was to recommend this book to a certain age I would recommend it to kids aged 10 onwards because of the size of the book and it had some scary parts that not everyone would enjoy reading about.

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Overall the rating for this book would have to be a 4 out of 5, because it was great to read except for when it took a bit too long building suspense for the exciting parts. Other than that it was amazing and cool, plus I would really recommend reading this fictional book.

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Why Fruits & Veggies Are Essential For School Kids Health

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One of the most impactful ways to support your child’s well-being during the school-age years is by incorporating a variety of fruits and vegetables into their daily diet. Packed with essential nutrients, vitamins, minerals, and fibre, these natural wonders offer many benefits that can contribute to your child’s growth, development, and overall vitality.

The school-age years are marked by rapid growth, both physically and mentally. Fruits and vegetables offer a host of benefits that are particularly vital during this developmental phase. By providing a diverse range of nutrient-rich options and using creative strategies to encourage kids to eat them, you can set your child on a path towards a lifetime of healthy eating habits.

Nutritional needs for school kids

Fruits and vegetables are nutritional powerhouses that deliver a wide range of health benefits to growing children. Here’s a closer look at why they are so vital for school kids.

Brain health and cognitive development

The vitamins and minerals found in fruits and vegetables, such as vitamin C, vitamin K, and folate, contribute to optimal brain function and cognitive development. These nutrients can aid in memory and concentration.

Energy for activities

As school-age kids become more active, they require energy to fuel their physical activities. Fruits provide natural sugars that supply immediate energy, while the fibre in both fruits and vegetables provides sustained energy release.

Immune support

School environments may expose children to various germs. The vitamins A and C in fruits and vegetables can strengthen the immune system, helping your child to fend off illnesses.

Bone health

Calcium and vitamin D, essential for bone health, are found in many vegetables and fruits like broccoli, oranges, and spinach. These nutrients can aid in maintaining strong bones and teeth, crucial for active kids.

Digestive health

Fibre-rich fruits and vegetables promote healthy digestion and can reduce the likelihood of gastrointestinal discomfort to help your child focus on their studies.

Tips for encouraging schools kids to eat more fruit and veggies

  • Include colourful options: Vibrantly coloured fruits and vegetables are not only visually appealing but also packed with diverse nutrients. Try blueberries, carrots, strawberries, and bell peppers.
  • Snack smartly: Replace sugary or processed snacks with sliced fruits, carrot sticks, celery, or snowpeas. Preparing convenient and nutritious snacks makes it easier for your child to choose healthier options.
  • Lunchbox variety: Pack your child’s lunchbox with a combination of fresh fruits and vegetables. Cherry tomatoes, baby carrots, apple slices, and grapes are easy to include and enjoyable to eat.
  • Dips and sauces: Provide healthy dips like yogurt-based dressings or hummus to make raw vegetables and fruits more appealing.
  • Smoothies: Blend fruits and vegetables into delicious smoothies. The natural sweetness of fruits can mask the taste of certain veggies, making it a great way to sneak in nutrients.
  • Cook together: Involve your child in meal planning and preparation. Let them choose a new fruit or vegetable to try and experiment with simple recipes.
  • Educational approach: Teach your child about the importance of different nutrients found in fruits and vegetables. This knowledge can empower them to make healthier choices independently.
  • Grow your own: If possible, start a small vegetable or herb garden. Children often become more interested in trying foods they’ve grown themselves.

Lucy And The Dark by Melinda Szymanik | Book Review

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When Lucy makes friends with the Dark she discovers a new and exciting world! Meanwhile, everyone else discovers what it’s like to live without the Dark! Lucy and the Dark is a delightful bedtime story with a surprise at lights out in the form of a glow-in-the-dark cover.

“I’m Dark,” said the voice. “It’s all right if you don’t like me. Nobody does. Everyone is too afraid. Just close your eyes and by morning I’ll be gone.”

Dark heaved a sigh.

One night Lucy meets the Dark and they zoom away on an adventure to explore all the wonderful things that happen when the Dark is around. But back home, everyone else is realising that they really do miss the Dark after all. Can Lucy and Dark be convinced to return?

From the award-winning creators of My Elephant is Blue comes this gorgeous, funny, and reassuring bedtime story about why we should ALL make friends with the Dark (recommended for children aged 3-7). Lucy’s adventure brings her back home to her mum, extremely ready to go to sleep, and with the hidden glow-in-the-dark pictures on the cover to discover, this is a story that will have the most reluctant child looking forward to turning off the light.

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Reader review from Emmeline

This was a lovely story about a girl overcoming her fear of the dark and learning about all the amazing things that can happen in the dark. It would be a great book for kids who have a fear of the dark/nighttime.

My 4-year-old said, “She is friends with the dark now ay mum?” And Mr 2 said, “They did a high 5!” Both boys were fully engaged and loved the story.

It was also a special surprise to turn the lights off after reading and seeing the cover glow! My boys can’t wait for ‘lights out’ after reading this book! So far we have read the book three nights in a row and once in the morning – so it is safe to say it is a favourite.

The author has a lovely writing style making the book easy to read and I would certainly read more books by this author. Overall, a really nice book with a lovely message – I am sure we will be reading it again and again!

Five stars – myself and the kids really enjoyed it.

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Book Review | Batpig: Go Pig or Go Home by Rob Harrell

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Batpig: Go Pig or Go Home is the third book in a brilliantly funny young graphic novel series, with two separate stories in each book.

Gary Yorkshire and his friends, Carl the fish and Brooklyn the bat, are facing what might be their piggest mission yet: magical sharks – and summer camp! First, there’s the sudden appearance of Sharkraham Lincoln (half shark! half president!), who sets off a major test cheating scandal. And then, at the worryingly named Camp Whomp-a-Pig, Gary’s hoping to finally get a break from superhero-ing, but a grumpy lake monster isn’t letting this sleeping pig lie.

Will Batpig ever catch a break to just relax and enjoy a tasty sandwich, and not have to save the world?

Brilliantly written and skilfully rendered by Rob Harrell, Batpig: Go Pig or Go Home is ideal reading for ages 7+.

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Review from Fin, age 11

Hi, I’m Fin and I am doing a book review on Batpig: Go Pig or Go Home for Kidspot NZ. This book was very entertaining to read. I loved the characters and the humour.

The book is about a pig called Gary and his friends Brook the bat and Carl the cod. I really liked the names the author gave the characters in this book especially.

The book is broken into 2 miniature stories and it was really easy to read because it is a graphic novel. The pictures made the story come to life in my head and I have found myself reading it over and over again as I enjoyed it so much.

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I would recommend kids aged about 5 upwards should read Batpig, especially kids that enjoy funny stories and animal characters. I am giving this book a 4.5 star rating.

Review from Kyle, age 8

My name is Kyle and I am 8 years old, I am doing a book review for Kidspot NZ on the book Batpig: Go Pig or Go Home by Rob Harrell.

This book is really cool! It has a comic vibe but in a book style. This has 2 stories in the book. 1st story is about Batpig being lazy with studying for a test and how he used a bit of magic and then all these wierd things started happening! 2nd story was Batpig went with his friends on camp and his identity got discovered, and how they went about to get it back to a secret!

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I loved how the book is like a comic, I love the colours of the book. It is so funny and silly, it really makes you feel you reading something silly you and your friends would be doing. I liked how they dealt with Batpig feeling like he was all alone and left out with no friends, I sometimes feel like that. I also wish I had magic when I feel lazy to study!

My favourite characters where Gary, I relate to him, and Carl … he is funny!!!

I give this book 5 out of 5, it really makes you want to read it again and again. It has funny fun adventures that you really see yourself and friends doing 🙂

Review from Reid, age 11

I really enjoyed this book and think it’s a 5 out of 5. It intrigued me and kept me interested the whole time.

I like the pictures as it is enjoyable to read with being interesting to look at.

Loved it.

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There Was An Odd Farmer Who Swallowed A Fly | New Book

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Peek through the holes in the pages to see what the odd farmer swallows in this favourite nursery rhyme with a pitch-perfect Kiwi twist!

Kiwi kids will love this favourite nursery rhyme with witty words by Peter Millett and hilarious illustrations by Paul Beavis – and a surprise twist at the end!

There was an odd farmer who swallowed a fly.
I dunno why she swallowed a fly —
it’s such weird kai.

Peek through the holes in the pages to see all the creatures inside the odd farmer! And what happens to them all at the end of the tale?

Expect a lot of belly laughs as you read this brilliant rhyming story aloud!

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Reader review from Yasmin

There Was An Odd Farmer Who Swallowed A Fly, written by Peter Millett and illustrations by Paul Beavis.

The title is quite revealing about the book’s contents. It is a story about an Odd Farmer who swallowed a fly and all the other things she swallows to try and get rid of this fly. A special feature of this book is the little holes that show us inside her tummy and all the things she has swallowed so far.

My 18 month old daughter was mostly fascinated by these little holes and loved pointing at them and through them with her little fingers. My 6 year old son loved the growing absurdity with each page, the rhymes and the hilarious outcome at the end. There’s even a little bit of discussion that could be had about the ending with older kids too, as I read it to a class of 10 year olds as well. At first they thought it was too kiddy, but as soon as I read the first page, they were hooked.

The incorporation of simple te reo Māori was awesome as well as the Kiwi animals too! When I asked my son what those words meant, he was able to answer me and understood the words in context. We have had the book for about a week and have probably read it 5 times already.

There Was An Odd Farmer Who Swallowed A Fly

Our family really enjoyed this book for a few different reasons. When I asked my son why he enjoyed it, he replied “I like the book because there’s a horse, doggy, a cow AND a kune! It’s funny, every time we don’t know why the farmer swallowed the fly.” My daughter can’t speak yet but the first chance she got, she took the book off to a corner and sat turning the pages and enjoying the pictures. As a parent, I enjoyed reading the book because of the rhyme and the rhythm in it. It was funny and the pages are a very thick cardstock so I am not worried about the kids ripping the pages as they turn them.

Overall I give this book 5 stars and would recommend it as a gift to children or teachers for age groups anywhere from 1 year old up to 10 years old. My children and students enjoyed it and I would read it again.

Barker’s Super Fruit Crush Multipack Pouches

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Kidspot parents gave Barker’s Super Fruit Crush Multipack Pouches an overall rating of 3.9 out of 5

Wishing for an easy and healthy option for hungry, active kids? It’s Barker’s to the rescue with Super Fruit Crush pouches – now in a pantry-ready multipack! This on-the-go snack is the perfect super food snack for lunch boxes, sports practice, or to CRUSH those afternoon hunger crunches.

Barker’s Super Fruit Crush pouches are the perfect healthy on-the-go snack. They have a health star rating of 4.5, contain over 90% fruit and are a good source of fibre, with no artificial colours, flavours, or preservatives. They are gluten-free and vegan-friendly and contain only natural sugars from fruit.

The new Multipacks are available in two flavours, Mixed Berry & Chia and Mango, Kiwifruit & Passionfruit allowing you to keep the pantry stocked with your favourite Super Fruit Crush flavours. They can even be frozen to become a fruit ice block!

Barker’s Super Fruit Crush pouches:

  • +90% fruit
  • source of fibre
  • contain no refined sugar, only natural sugars from fruit
  • no artificial colour, flavours, or preservatives
  • gluten-free
  • vegan-friendly

For more information visit Barker’s.co.nz.

You can find Barkers products at your local supermarket or buy online from Barker’s.co.nz.

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We gave 50 families the chance to trial and review Barker’s Super Fruit Crush Multipack pouches. See their photos in the video and read more of the reviews in the comments below.

Popped a couple in the freezer and they loved taking them to school in their lunchboxes and were the envy of their friends who were intrigued by what they were. The portion sizes are so generous and not having a plastic lid is a game changer and makes opening them a breeze and having less rubbish is a win!

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It was easy for him to open and he could squeeze every last little bit out of the pouch. I sent one in his lunch the next day in addition to his usual fruit, and everything was eaten, so it’s great that the pouches can add that extra bit of vitamins and goodness without cutting back on any of his other fruit in his lunch.

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We were one of the fortunate whānau that got to trial these and we are hooked! Our favourite was the Mango, the flavours are so intense and are even better frozen. We also tried the Berry and chia flavour with Greek yoghurt and it was delicious.

Leilah Karika

I’ll let my daughter do the review “It is soooo good. Sweet and fruity. I liked it in my school lunchbox. I didn’t have to ask the teacher to open it. I was scared it would have lumpy bits but it didn’t”

callum.irvine

Yum!! The kids loved these. Miss 7 said “these are delicious, they’re like yoghurt but better”. Master 11 & 13 couldn’t decide which flavour they liked more and thought they tasted like fruit smoothies.

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Meet The Newest Member Of The Blistex Family

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Since 1947 Blistex has been cheerleading for happy, healthy lips and it’s delighted to introduce you to the newest family member – Agave Rescue. Packed with all the goodness of Agave, Peach, and Kakadu Plum extracts, this powerhouse lip balm will revitalise, soften and moisturise your lips like nothing else.

Compared to other skin on our body, our lips have the thinnest layers of skin along with fewer and different oil glands and no melanin – so it’s no surprise that wind, sun, cold, dry air and even sickness can cause them to dry out.

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Along with agave extract, the new Agave Rescue from Blistex contains Calendula to help soften and smooth chapped lips along with vitamins B1, C, D and K to deliver a burst of moisture.

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Celebrating 100 Years of Auckland Zoo | Family Review

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Auckland Zoo opened its door to the Tāmaki Makaurau Auckland community on Saturday 16 December 1922. Since then, they have evolved to become an active conservation organisation and have welcomed over 28 million visitors to connect with nature, community, and wildlife.

At no time in its 100-year history has the role, relevance, and purpose of Auckland Zoo for people and for wildlife been more important than it is right now. With the help of its visitors, Auckland Zoo has donated over $5 million to conservation organisations through its Conservation Fund, plus their expert staff spend thousands of hours doing conservation fieldwork across the motu and overseas.

By visiting Auckland Zoo, you make a real and tangible contribution to the zoo’s conservation work here and in the wild. Join in the celebrations and give a gift to wildlife.

Open to all visitors, the 100 Year Exhibition is a dynamic experience in Auckland Zoo’s exhibition space, The Domes. It offers an incredible journey into the Zoo’s past, present and future – featuring photos, videos, and fun interactive activities for all ages.

We sent along Jacque and her family for a day out at Auckland Zoo to meet the inhabitants and check out the 100 Year Exhibition. Read her review below.

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Experiencing 100 years of Auckland Zoo

Our little family (husband, sons aged 8 and 2 and myself) were lucky to be able to experience the 100 year celebration at the Auckland Zoo
dome.

We decided to make a full day out of it and arrived when the doors opened and left when the doors closed, soaking it all in! We arrived at 9.15am and found good parking (a lot of other people had the same idea). There is good parking and street parking, plus the bus stops at the tram which you could catch making it just a touch more special. We paid $8 for parking (the maximum amount you’ll get set back for this newly added feature) and proceeded into the zoo with kids bouncing with excitement.

We were immediately greeted by friendly staff guiding visitors to the correct queues. Our queuing time was less than 2 minutes, and we had a choice of 2
lines to enter. We scanned our tickets, kids were offered a map (my kids love maps so this was received with great joy), and our adventure awaited us!

Just beyond the entrance, to the left was the dome – home to the 100 years of Auckland Zoo exhibition. A friendly smile and an activity sheet awaited us upon entrance. The activity was to explore the exhibition and return with four stamps. The prize? A die-roll for a chance at some ice-cream! This certainly captured the kids’ attention. The stamps were close enough that it wasn’t too long between them, but also afforded us the opportunity to digest the information and learn some interesting facts about Auckland Zoo and its inhabitants.

Our favourite exhibits included the photos of visits over the last 100 years, drawings of children’s favourite animals and the section where people share their hopes and wishes for themselves and the Zoo in general. For the kids, some activities that they enjoyed were: drawing their favourite animal, seeing animal x-rays, a recycling quiz, a tunnel to crawl through (this was of particular interest). There were also activities for the slightly more mature – sharing goals on a goal wall or weaving a piece of yarn through an intricate web, based on who you are, where you come from and what you enjoy. My favourite part was the maps of the zoo over the years and how they had changed.

After completing the stamps we headed back to the front of the exhibition. Time for the boys to try their luck! They weren’t able to get the correct roll of the die, but the lady kindly gave them both a stamp to redeem a free ice cream. This was definitely one of the highlights of the day for them. We also noticed merchandise at the front, which enabled visitors to take a piece of this historic moment home with them.

Once out of the dome we headed to the vet rooms. The boys loved exploring the drawers and seeing how the vets help and heal the animals. They weren’t able to catch a procedure in action, but there’s always next time!

Our next stop was the café to cash in the ice creams and get Mum and Dad a yummy coffee! The cones were quite appropriately animal themed. Across from the café was the playground with the egg slide (temporarily out of order) and dragon. The boys wasted no time in exploring and having a go at the diggers. The diggers required tokens, but these were easy enough to purchase (no cash necessary).

Auckland Zoo family fun

Exploring the Zoo

Our route took us past the reclusive red panda and we got to see it in full view. The boys loved spotting ‘King Julian’ and he did not disappoint with his poses!

The tigers were a massive hit especially when the one walked through the tunnel, right in front of us! The otters were a delight.

Another new feature is the rainforest. Included is a returnable guide. An amazing, amazon ambience is set with the occasional rain shower and even down to the smell of rich soil.

The ape house was definitely worth swinging by. We got to finally see who had been calling out all morning. Apart from seeing the simiangs up close, we also got to play a few memory games and have a look at the crazy mirrors. At this point we were also given some really interesting info (and a nice joke) by a zoo volunteer.

Our next stop was the seal enclosure, just in time to see it being fed. The diet of the seal (some fish and a frozen squid) brought out some interesting conversation amongst our family.

Time to refuel

It was close to midday, so a break and meal were in order. A good eating place or two was never far away, and we decided to sit at a rock meeting place. We were surrounded by beautiful native plants and little birds hoping to share a bite. The autumn leaves falling from the trees made more some majestic scenery.

After lunch we headed to the lizards which was exciting to try see which of us could spot the lizard and spiders first!

We got to see the kiwi up close to the window which was incredible!!! It was the first time that has ever happened. A slight drawback was that some people don’t respect the sanctity of the place and were quite loud.

The path out of the kiwis led to the eels, which is always fascinating. I particularly liked the half boat on either side of the enclosure.

We spent a decent amount of time in the aviaries. It was almost like being in another world, with the lush greenery and scenic waterfall. It was exciting to see some native birds like the kea and pīwakawaka.

Once we finished with the aviaries Mr 8 was quite chuffed he was able to spot the serval under the tree! The cheetah was definitely showing off to us, posing for pictures! Mr 8 loved the information about the cheetahs.

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Favourite inhabitants

The flamingos held our attention for a while, the fascination with how they balance on one leg really amazed the kids. We only were allowed to leave the flamingos because the elephant was really close, I think they were doing checks on it. But still in awe of how magical it is. They loved how it ate its food with its trunk. Another attraction was the elephant statue – always a popular photo opportunity for whānau.

The central eating area – with the rock water feature was good fun for our kids, as well as plenty of others. Even with the slightly colder weather, the young ones could not pass up an opportunity to get wet.

When we passed the lions we were lucky to have them on the top of their den and then wander off to the viewing glass where they climbed up the trees. It’s really amazing to see that each animal has enough space to suit their needs and to simulate their natural environment.

The meerkat tunnels are always a popular spot and this day was no different. Some younger (and older) kids enjoyed making their way through the tunnels to the spot where one can view the meerkats from within their territory!

A rare occurrence for us was to see the porcupine – its quills glistened in the late afternoon sun. We never realized how big these majestic beasts actually are.

Our favourite spot was the zebra and giraffe enclosure, the viewing decks are perfectly made to view over the whole area and see the giraffes up close.
One can truly appreciate the wonder and beauty of nature from up there.

There were a few volunteers and staff who had little stations set up around the zoo. We did a matching animal picture to animal facts game. Although Mr 2 was a bit too young to understand, Mr 8 really enjoyed it (and learnt one or two new facts too!).

Kids loved the play area by the South American walkway, they loved climbing and balancing.

We ended our day in the gift shop where, if we could, we would buy everything in there, such amazing mementos! We let the boys pick one item each. Mr 2 got a flamingo and Mr 8 got a tui … each one winning a special place in their hearts!

The kids definitely had an amazing day. Mr 2 even forewent his daytime nap to take in as much as possible and not miss out. This was a good educational way to get out, get some sun and tire the kids out.

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Family-friendly positives

There was always someone, either a staff member or volunteer at each section, always happy to give information about the animals. I love that there were plenty of bins around, there was no excuse for litter! It was also great that they have many benches and picnic tables around to rest and sit. With having kids it is also great to have toilets quite regularly around the zoo and good baby change rooms so we did not struggle with nappy changes.

The kids asked to go again this weekend, so definitely a good day was had!!! I would recommend spending the whole day there – there is definitely something for every age!

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How To Make Father’s Day A Fun Family Affair

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Does Father’s Day sometimes feel like an afterthought, hidden in the shadow of the fanfare of Mother’s Day? Or perhaps it’s just another day marked with a tie-shaped card, a simple gift, and an obligatory family dinner. Have you ever stopped to think about how to make this special day more than just a routine?

If you’re tired of the same old Father’s Day routine, struggling to come up with new ways to make the day memorable for the first hero in your life, this year you’re in luck! Here’s a guide on how to bring the fun back into Father’s Day and celebrate it in style, for a joy-filled family affair that will be remembered for years.

Cook his favourite meal together

Instead of the usual gift, consider more unique and personal ideas for Father’s Day, such as preparing Dad’s favourite meal together. Cooking together as a family creates delicious food and provides a platform for bonding and creating memorable experiences.

Try your hand at that elaborate recipe he’s been wanting to try or stick to his all-time favourite comfort food. The goal here isn’t to impress him with your culinary skills but to pour out your love and gratitude in every stir and slice.

Remember to include everyone in the cooking process. Even the smallest ones can help with tasks like washing vegetables or setting the table. This communal effort will make the meal taste even better.

Organise a family games night

Nothing says fun family affair quite like a games night. Dust off those board games or set up a friendly family tournament this Father’s Day. It could be anything from video games to card games to outdoor sports. The main goal is to indulge in hearty laughter and some friendly competition.

But what’s a tournament without snacks and refreshments, right? Here’s where you can further tailor the event to Dad’s tastes. Whether he’s a fan of homemade nachos, popcorn, or a unique family recipe, ensuring his favourite snacks are on hand will make the day extra special. This could even be a fun activity to do together as a family – preparing Dad’s special snacks and drinks.

To make the day even more exceptional, consider ordering a gift like a Celebration Box. This box can be filled with his favourite beverage, Copper Kettle Chips, delicious Jack Links Beef Jerkies, and more. Not only will this assortment of goodies surprise and delight him, but it also adds an extra layer of excitement to your family tournament.

Craft a homemade gift

When it comes to gifts, sometimes the most meaningful ones are those that come from the heart. This Father’s Day, consider crafting a homemade gift. It doesn’t have to be complex or costly; it is just to convey in some small way the love and appreciation you feel for your father.

You could create a scrapbook filled with photos and mementos that tell your family’s story and the special moments you’ve shared. Or it could be a personalized mug painted by the kids or a heartfelt letter expressing your gratitude and love.

Whichever route you choose, handcrafted presents are a gift that’ll be treasured by the recipient (Dad) for their sentiment and the memories they hold.

Plan a surprise adventure

Another way to make Father’s Day a family affair is by organizing a surprise adventure. This could be anything from a trip to a nearby city he’s always wanted to visit or a camping trip to his favourite wilderness spot. Take into account his personal interests and hobbies. Is he a history buff? Plan a trip to a historical site or museum. Is he a fan of nature? A hiking trip or a day of fishing could be the perfect way to spend the day.

Remember to involve the kids in planning the adventure. They’ll revel in the thrill of keeping “mum” about the surprise for their dad. Plus, it’s an excellent method to involve them in the celebration and instil the value of showing love and appreciation.

Fishing fun for Father's Day

Create a Father’s Day playlist

Music has a remarkable way of uniting people. This Father’s Day, incorporate a melodious touch to your celebrations by assembling a playlist of your dad’s favourite tracks. Whether he’s a fan of classic rock, country music, jazz, or any other genre, a thoughtfully curated playlist will unquestionably strike a chord in his heart.

And creating a playlist can be a family activity. Invite everyone to suggest songs that remind them of Dad or ones they know he relishes. You could include tracks that occupy a special place in your family’s history. As these songs serenade you throughout the day, they’ll serve as a harmonious reminder of your love and appreciation for him.

Final words

Turning Father’s Day into a fun family affair doesn’t require grand plans or expensive gifts. It’s about making the day special by celebrating your unique bond with your dad and making him feel loved and appreciated.

Whether planning a surprise adventure, cooking his favourite meal together, or organizing a family game night, the key is incorporating activities that bring the family closer together. By doing this, you’re not just creating a memorable day for your father, but you’re building lasting memories as a family as well. So, this Father’s Day, go ahead and break the routine – make it a day filled with love, laughter, and fun.

Olivia Bennett is a parenting enthusiast and family activities advocate. With a passion for fostering strong family bonds, Olivia has been curating fun and engaging experiences for parents and children alike. When she’s not brainstorming exciting family activities, Olivia enjoys exploring nature with her own family, experimenting with new recipes, and capturing precious moments through photography.

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How To Manage Your Child’s Screen Time

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With the increasing usage of social media and the internet, more and more children are fascinated with the possibilities of being on social media. Even though social media is not entirely bad, certain dangers are attached to it. Additionally, it is important to note that social media users may be unaware of the dangers of longer screen time.

ExpressVPN’s survey states that the average screen time for young children has been increasing in recent years, and some 4-year-olds spend over 21 minutes on social media daily. These issues should not be taken lightly, but parents can take preventive measures to help children avoid dangers while using social media.

The dangers of social media

Be it social media platforms like Instagram or YouTube, or other websites that exist on the internet, nothing is entirely safe for young children to use. Even though the internet can be equally dangerous for adults, they are usually more aware of its dangerous side than younger generations.

Younger children, on the contrary, may be unaware of these issues or incapable of handling dangerous situations on social media. However, other than the various issues that make social media problematic, it is also a fact that increased screen time can be equally problematic for children.

How to manage screen time for children

Young children face multiple dangers on social media. There have been increasing cases of cyberbullying and internet trolling and younger generations are more prone to having long-lasting impacts due to such issues. Additionally, predatory activities are also quite common on the internet, so it is advised to watch children’s internet activity.

Besides the various dangers of using social media, it is also important for parents to manage screen time for children. Parents should have a healthy discussion with young children about the issues they can face if they are constantly on their phones. Other than sight issues, children can also feel isolated and may become addicted to spending time on social media. That is why it is better to teach them how to minimise screen time and show them alternate ways to spend their time.

The use of parental controls on all devices and sites that are within the house will allow parents to not only monitor the screen time of their children but will also help them protect their kids from any inappropriate content. An interesting way to reduce screen time for children could be by introducing screen-free zones within the house. Parents should also keep in mind that they will have to make a collective effort to reduce their own screen time so that their children can use that as an example.

It can be easier to reduce screen time for kids if things are discussed with them openly. It will benefit parents if they can freely discuss why children need to reduce screen time and how they should manage their internet activities.

Conclusion

Parents can try to minimise screen time for their children in many ways. The internet is useful for children and they may not be completely restricted from using it. However, parents must remember that unrestrained internet access can lead to severe problems for children. Additionally, too much screen time can have many negative effects, so it is beneficial to monitor the screen time for children.

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Nibblish Pure Fruit Swirls

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Kidspot parents gave Nibblish Pure Fruit Swirls an overall rating of 4.3 out of 5

Nibblish Pure Fruit Swirls are your new healthy lunchbox hack!  Say goodbye to the stress of finding a healthy and delicious snack for your kids’ lunchbox and say hello to a convenient, 100% fruit snack with no added sugar, syrups, colourings, preservatives, or other nasties.

Nibblish Pure Fruit Swirls are made from 100% fruit and transformed into delicious fruit swirls, with three tasty flavours: Raspberry, Mango, and Strawberry – all deliciously infused with kiwifruit and apple too!

Gluten-free, vegan and vegetarian friendly, and sustainably sourced, Nibblish Pure Fruit Swirls are transforming lunch box snacks for Kiwi kids.

Plus with every packet of Nibblish Pure Fruit Swirls, kids will get an Explorer collector card that is fun and engaging for your children to learn, interact and play with. If you find all 40 Explorer cards, you’ve won your kids an epic Nibblish prize pack which includes a custom explorer suitcase, 3x packs of Kids Fruit Swirls, a compass, binoculars, and a custom Nibblish tee & hat.

For more information visit Nibblish.co.nz and get exploring!

You can find Nibblish Pure Fruit Swirls at Nibblish.co.nz or at New World and PAK’nSAVE stores in the North Island.

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We’ve given 50 families the chance to trial and review Nibblish Pure Fruit Swirls. Read their reviews below in the comments.

These were a huge hit in our house. The berry flavors were the favourite for sure. The 8yr old was def a bigger fan and enjoyed then daily. The flavour and taste and serving size were spot on and great to have different flavor options.

zackandemiliasmummy

These real fruit swirls are what we have been searching for to add a healthy treat to my kids lunch boxes! To my kids it’s a treat, but to me it’s a healthy treat made from real fruit with no added sugar or preservatives – win win!

hturner

The fruit swirls were definitely tasty and such a bonus that they are made from just fruit. Even managed to get my fussiest eater (who won’t eat any fruit at all) to try them and he enjoyed them, so definitely a win here!

Ha

This is absolutely a 100 % pass rate in our house! My 5 year old absolutely loves these. They an awesome lunch box filler and very tasty! This is a new added item to our shopping list.

Inge Waghorne

My little ones loves collecting all the explorer cards each time they were really excited to see which one they would get next.

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Besties Work It Out by Kayla Miller & Jeffrey Canino | Kids Book Review

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Besties Work It Out is a fun and fresh graphic novel series spin-off of the New York Times bestselling ‘Click’ series, featuring aspiring entrepreneurs Beth and Chanda!

When the girls land a lucrative dogsitting gig, they’re sure that fame, fortune and popularity can’t be far behind, but nothing can prepare them for the mishap that throws their business plan – and friendship – into chaos!

Beth and Chanda are two stylish best friends on their way to building their fashion empire! An unexpected business opportunity presents itself when the girls are asked to dogsit at Ms Langford’s luxurious house while she’s away, but it quickly turns into a disaster after an accident leaves one of Ms Langford’s prized possessions in pieces! Now Beth and Chanda have to take on as many odd jobs as they can in order to afford a replacement. Car washing, book sales, interior decorating – you name it, Beth and Chanda are there! Will they be able to patch up their mistake in time?

Take a look at the reviews from our Young Readers for Besties Work It Out by Kayla Miller & Jeffrey Canino below ⬇️

Book review from Ihaia, 9

Besties Work it Out is the first graphic novel in the series by Kayla Miller and Jeffrey Canino.

This story is about two besties called Beth and Chanda who are trying to find ways to earn money. They get asked to look after Ms. Langford’s house while she is away. There is a big list of things to do. After an accident, they need to make even more money, and FAST! They make some posters that say ‘Busy Beth and Chanda’ and people in the neighbourhood start hiring them for all sorts of jobs. Will they make enough money in time?

I would give this book 4.5 out of 5 stars.

Besties Work It Out by Kayla Miller book review

This book started hooking me deeper as I started reading it because I wanted to see what happened next on every page. I really like the graphic novel style so I would recommend it to anyone else who likes graphic novels too.

Book review from Zara, 12

This book is based on two sixth graders, Beth and Chanda. Chanda wants her parents to see that she is responsible enough to look after a pet and Beth wants her hard working mum to have a well earned spa day to have a few hours off her feet.

But they run into a problem: how will they pay for Beth’s mum’s spa day and possibly Chanda’s new pet, so they decide to set up a lemonade stand where you can have different coloured lemonades for 75 cents. When they only get seven customers, things start to look down on them unless a family member might come to the rescue. Through their adventures they learn how to dogsit, get back together after an argument plus learn how to be truthful and face the consequences.

Besties Work It Out by Kayla Miller book review

My note to the authors:

I would like to see a little comic section of the process Chanda had to go through after her parents said she could get a cat and how she got what she needed for Countess Pawsbury.

I really enjoyed reading this book and would like to read books like this again.

Book review from Abigail, 9

Besties Work It Out is about two very good friends called Beth and Chanda who both want to achieve a goal … Beth wants to treat her mum to a spa visit for her birthday and Chanda wants a cat. Together they decide to earn some money while dog sitting but they run into some trouble. This puts their friendship at risk but in time they work it out cos that’s what besties are supposed to do.

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Book review from Dani, aged 11

I really like Kayla Miller’s books. This was another good story about a couple of best friends who are ready to work hard for what they want but even when you’re trying hard to be responsible you might end up making more mess for yourself! But it’s ok because you can figure it out when you work in a team.

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Book review from Eva, 10

I really liked this book because I quite like Kayla Miller’s books, as this is one of them.

Besties Work It Out is about two best friends that have a house sitting job that they have never tried before. As they have never done this before, they make some mistakes. First they invite friends over to the house that they’re looking after, then they accidentally smash a very expensive piece of furniture. So to save up for another one they do some jobs around the neighbourhood.

⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ 5 stars

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Why Plunge Pools Are Having Their Moment

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Plunge pools have been increasing in popularity in recent years and for a good reason. These small, deep pools are typically designed for therapeutic purposes and are great for relaxing, cooling off, and exercising.

They can be installed indoors or outdoors, and their compact size and easy maintenance make them a great option for smaller spaces or for those looking for a low-maintenance pool option.

Here are some reasons why plunge pools are having their moment:

Compact size

One of the primary advantages of plunge pools is their compact size. Along with wooden lounge furniture, these pools can fit into smaller backyards, patios, or rooftops, making them an ideal solution for those who want a pool but have limited space. Unlike larger pools, these can be installed almost anywhere (subject to building and council regulations), making them a versatile option for homeowners.

Cost-effective

Another reason why plunge pools are gaining popularity is that they are cost-effective. Traditional pools can be expensive to install, maintain, and operate, whereas these pools are typically much cheaper and require less maintenance. In addition, they use less water and energy, making them a more environmentally-friendly option.

Therapeutic benefits

Plunge pools are designed to be deeper than traditional pools, typically between four and seven feet deep. This depth provides several therapeutic benefits, including improved circulation, reduced muscle tension, and stress relief. These pools are also great for hydrotherapy, which can help ease joint pain and inflammation.

Easy to maintain

Because of their smaller size, plunge pools are generally easier to maintain than larger pools. They require less water, chemicals, and time to clean, making them an attractive option for busy homeowners. In addition, many plunge pool designs come equipped with automatic cleaning and filtration systems, further simplifying the maintenance process.

Versatile design options

Despite their smaller size, plunge pools can be designed in various styles to fit the aesthetic of any home or outdoor space. They can be made from a range of materials, including concrete, fibreglass, and vinyl. They can be customized with a variety of features, such as lighting, waterfalls, and even heating systems for year-round use.

Fitness benefits

Plunge pools can also be great for exercise, particularly for those who prefer low-impact workouts. The deep water of a plunge pool provides resistance, making it ideal for swimming laps (if space allows), water aerobics, or other aquatic exercises. These pools are also an excellent option for athletes or fitness enthusiasts who want to improve their performance by using cold water therapy for recovery.

In a nutshell, plunge pools are having their moment because they offer a variety of benefits that traditional pools do not. They are compact, cost-effective, and require less maintenance than larger pools. These pools also provide a range of therapeutic benefits, making them a great option for relaxation and exercise. With their versatile design options, these pools can be customized to fit the aesthetic of any home or outdoor space. As more and more people look for ways to maximize their outdoor living spaces, these pools are likely to continue to gain in popularity.

Please refer to local building authority and council regulations for guidance before installing any pool.

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Running With Ivan by Suzanne Leal | Kids Book Review

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From award-winning author Suzanne Leal comes a gripping timeslip novel inspired by true stories. In Running With Ivan, thirteen-year-old Leo Arnold, yearning to escape the new family he never wanted, is transported to wartime Europe where he must draw on his courage to save himself and those around him.

Thirteen-year-old Leo Arnold hates his life. He doesn’t want a new school, a new house or a new family. And he definitely doesn’t want to be sharing a room with his new stepbrother, Cooper.

What Leo wants is to be somewhere else, far away. So when he uncovers an old music box and turns the key, he is astonished to find himself in Prague, surrounded by whispers and fears of a second world war. A war that ended decades ago.

In Prague, Leo meets Ivan, a Czech boy, and the two become friends. But when World War Two finally erupts, the unimaginable becomes real and the boys are imprisoned. Fearing the worst, Leo and Ivan frantically search for an escape. A search that sends them running.

Running against time.

Running for their lives.

Take a look at the reviews from our Young Readers for Running With Ivan by Suzanne Leal below ⬇️

Book review from Holly, 14

Suzanne Leal’s novel Running With Ivan is a touching story about a young child named Leo. This book follows Leo as his entire life changes, with a new house, a new school, and a new family, none of which he desires. Soon after moving, Leo discovers an old music box that transports him to Nazi Germany. It is here Leo meets Ivan.

This story shows the hardships of being a Jew in Nazi Germany and tells the tale of an epic and unlikely friendship between two boys born decades apart.

I would definitely recommend this heartwarming novel.

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Book review from Ellen, 13

If you’re looking for a book about a friendship that spans time and continents, then this book is for YOU!

We are introduced to Leo, a 13 year old boy who hates his life. He has to adjust to a new family dynamic when his father marries again. Although he likes his new step-mum, his step-brothers make his life very difficult.

Leo is angry, upset and frustrated by this new family he has had no input in. “Why can’t things go back to how they were before?”

Running with Ivan by Suzanne Leal book review

Then he discovers his mum’s old music box, he turns the key and is transported back in time, to Prague, just before World War II is about to start! Leo meets Ivan (a Czech boy) and their mutual love of running ensures they become great friends. When WWII finally erupts, so does a dangerous adventure. The boys are incarcerated!

Full of twists and turns, their race to escape will keep you guessing and give you a new perspective on what is really important in life.

Thanks to Kidspot and Harper Collins for the excellent reading experience!

Book review from Fin, aged 11

The book is about a boy Leo who hates his life, especially sharing a room with his new step-brother. He is depressed all the time so spends his days going running or hiding away in a room in the garage.

One day he finds an old music box. When he turns the key he is surprised to find himself in Prague in 1934 with whispers of a war that ended years ago.

Leo feels scared until he meets a Czech boy called Ivan and they quickly become friends. But when World War 2 finally occurs something unimaginable happens, the boys are imprisoned. Fearing the worst. Ivan and Leo must now run for survival.

Running with Ivan book review

There are twists and turns in this book that make you want to keep reading until the very end.

If you love history and adventure then this book is for you. I absolutely loved this book and have already recommended that my friends read it.

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Children Of The Stone City by Beverley Naidoo | Kids Book Review

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Children of the Stone City is a thrilling, resonant and inspiring novel about justice, privilege and the power of the young to strive for change.

The story is set in a world where Adam and Leila and their friend Zak live as Nons under the Permitted ruling class. When Adam and Leila’s father dies unexpectedly, their mother faces losing her permit to live in the Stone City with deportation to where she was born. Before music-loving Adam can implement his plan to save Mama, Zak is arrested for a bold prank that goes wrong, with far-reaching repercussions for them all …

This eagerly awaited new children’s book comes from award-winning author Beverley Naidoo, winner of the Carnegie Medal for The Other Side of Truth. Beverley’s first novel, Journey to Jo’burg, has never been out of print in the UK and US since its publication in 1985. It now appears in the HarperCollins Modern Classics list and is frequently read in schools worldwide.

Take a look at the reviews from our Young Readers for Children of the Stone City by Beverley Naidoo below ⬇️

Book review from Naimh, 13

This book is about a family of sons working together to stay in the Stone City. But with the recent death of their father, their mother’s permit on the line and the Permitted’s taking away the Non’s homes and imprisoning the innocent, Adam and Leila must find a way to save their family and friends before it’s too late.

I think the audience for this book would be 9 to 12-year-olds. It’s not too long, quite enjoyable and spreads the message of all lives matter. It really feels like the author wrote from the heart. I very much feel like the story had an emotional turn for most people. You really felt for the characters when something bad happened to them.

Children of the Stone City book review

I thought the book was very interesting how it made the story go through its normal path before shaking things up again. The characters were well made and loveable. The story had a great feel to it and you didn’t want to put it down. I think I would definitely read it again.

I would absolutely read other books by Beverly Naidoo. The book ended on a cliffhanger, so naturally it needed a second book, but her writing is soo catchy!

I liked the cover art because me, personally, I judge books by their cover and title. The pretty illustrations really draw me in.

Overall, this book is a good choice for those who like tear jerkers and cliffhangers.

Book review from Jonathan, aged 13

Children of the Stone City by Beverley Naidoo is a book that follows the story of two children, living in a city corrupted by power and discrimination. There are two different classes in this city – nons and permitted. The law enforcement in the city is extremely biased towards the permitted and basically let them get away with everything. This is demonstrated throughout the book as we see many things that happen to nons that should be punished however the opposite happens and the nons end up in trouble instead of the permitted. The two children that the book follows are both avid musicians, that enjoy playing their instrument as it allows them to ignore the problems surging around them, and do something that they enjoy.

Children of the Stone City book review

The true main character is Adam as the book practically centralises around his story due to him being the eldest and being responsible, trying to help his mother get her permit renewed. He has a genius plan to do this however he faces many problems with carrying this out through the book, and we see how he overcomes these and perseveres all the way into the very end. Overall there is much character development we see in the characters in this book, and we see what happens in the book from many different perspectives, seeing other characters’ outlook on the situation.

Book review from Eva, 9

Hi I’m Eva and I am going to tell you about the Children Of The Stone City.

This story has a main character called Adam, and he plays violin. He and his sister Leila recently lose their father and their friend Zak goes to prison for a brave trick.

I think this book would be good for people who like reading long, sad stories that are also interested in different cultures and ways.

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Book review from Hamish, aged 12

The story starts off with Adam and his sister Leila who have a friend called Zak. The three of them live with Adam and Leila’s Nan after their dad dies unexpectedly from unknown reasons. Adam’s mum ends up losing her permit to live in Stone City which raises the risk of her being sent back to the country she grew up in. Their city is under strict rules and the people that live there have to have permits or they will be kicked out.

Zak gets arrested for a silly prank that goes wrong while his friends plan a way to help him escape prison and they also come across some major challenges along the way.

Children of the Stone City by Beverley Naidoo book review

I enjoyed this book because of the plan they make to help Zak escape. I recommend this book for people that are into adventurous themes. Overall, I give this book a three-star rating because I felt that the storyline wasn’t explained that well. I found the storyline confusing and hard to follow.

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Stop Doing These Things For Your Teenage Children

Over the years there’s been a growing trend across the media to insist that we stop doing so much for our teenage kids to curb their supposedly self-entitled status and teach them some responsibility.

Now, I am all for kids taking on chores, helping out around the house and indeed, taking responsibility for themselves. Life skills are a must! However, I draw the line at the insistence that, once a kid becomes a teen, they are on their own and if I do any of these things for my child then I am raising a spoilt brat. I’m still their mum – I’m still going to do whatever I can to make their life a happy one.

Here’s a rundown of some of the things that you may wish to consider when instilling your teen with some added responsibility and building those life skills. Use them all, pick out a few, or ignore the lot – it’s your choice.

1. Don’t wake them up in the morning

They still have to get up – obviously – but pass the responsibility on to them (or their alarm clock) when you can. I have two polar opposites when it comes to waking. One always gets himself up and ready for school – often before I wake from my own slumber. And one has two alarm clocks and still requires waking. He is just a very, very deep sleeper. Short of installing a fire siren in his room I am stuck with having to nag him to get out of the bed each morning.

2. Don’t make their breakfast

Yes, yes, yes! It’s breakfast – it doesn’t require a Michelin star to prepare a few slices of toast or a bowl of cereal so, kids – go for it!

3. Don’t pack their lunch

Armed with good nutrition role modelling there’s no reason why teens can’t pack their own lunches. I am conflicted on this one because A) I hate packing school lunch boxes but B) Those teens could easily take half the pantry and fridge with them each day – where exactly do these growing teens put all that food?!

4. Don’t do their laundry

We all know the scenario – your teen wants to wear a certain item of clothing but it sits crumpled on the bedroom floor instead of clean and hanging up. With modern appliances, doing the washing is a doddle so by all means teach them to do their own.

5. Don’t deliver their forgotten items

Here’s the line in the sand as far as I’m concerned. This is where the “I’m their mum and I’ll do whatever I want” kicks in. EVERYBODY forgets stuff. It doesn’t mean that they are going to grow up completely irresponsible because one time they forget what day of the week it is and ask mum to drop off their sports gear. My husband is notorious for leaving behind his work tools, phone, ladder, you name it, on a regular basis. I asked him, when he was a kid, did his mum race down to the school with anything he forgot and of course, the answer was no. Did it stop him from being forgetful? NO. For me, not allowing my child to make such a request (whether I’m able to remedy the situation or not) feels wrong. They are still my children. Just because they’re older, that doesn’t change. I’m their mum – that’s my job. I will do everything I can to remind them that no matter what it is, they can always come to me. There are just too many implications for severing that open line of communication.

6. Don’t do their schoolwork for them

By all means, allow them to come to you if they don’t understand something or if they need guidance, but they learn nothing if you do the whole thing for them. Soon the work they are doing will likely be beyond your grasp anyway so retreat now!

7. Don’t fill out their paperwork

Your child wants to sign up for an after-school sport or apply for a driver’s licence? Allow them to fill in their own paperwork. Please, please do! This is a much-needed skill – the earlier they start the better.

8. Don’t call their teacher or coach

If your child has an issue that they need to approach their teacher or sports coach with, let them take the initiative. They need to learn how to problem solve (with your advice if they seek it). So before you pick up the phone or storm down to the school, give your child the opportunity to tackle the issue first. Just ensure that they know that you have their back when needed.

9. Don’t micromanage their life

Encourage kids to remember their own schedule, know what to pack each day, where they should be and when. Saying that, on mornings I’m like a walking, talking, nagging checklist! Have you got your drink bottle? Bus card? Phone? PE clothes? Hat? I know I should stop – especially when I see their eyes glaze over because they’ve heard it a million times and basically I could ask them if they’ve packed their dinosaur and they would nod – but I’m just trying to pre-empt number 5!

her world julieWritten by Julie Scanlon

Julie is Editor for Kidspot NZ and our MVP. Her hobbies include laughing uncontrollably at her own jokes, annoying her family by asking questions about movie plots, and never taking anything too seriously. She speaks a little Spanish and a lot of Yorkshire. 

Favourite motto to live by: “It ain’t nothing but a thing”

Applying For A Child’s Passport

Considering an overseas holiday with the family? Don’t forget to apply in plenty of time for passports for all travellers. Everyone travelling overseas needs to have a valid passport, including the kids.

The first time I applied for a passport for one of my kids was when my son was 18 months old. My husband, my son and I were taking a medium-length flight in Europe. His passport photo was adorable – a cheeky little monkey who had to be reminded not to smile for the camera – for just this once!

The flight was a breeze. We had bought him a special toy to play with on the plane but he was far more interested in running up and down the aisles, babbling to the passengers and charming the air stewards. The meal for all the passengers was unduly delayed … apparently because all the crew were too busy chatting to him!

Roll on a year and a half and our next experience with passport photos and air travel was nowhere near as relaxed. My youngest was just nine months old and no, infants do NOT look in the direction that they are supposed to look, keep their eyes open, refrain from crying or actually do anything that you need them to do, right there, right then – especially when you really, REALLY need that photo. We spent a fortune in a photo booth with my son sat on my husband’s knee to get the shot only to have it rejected due to tight guidelines around photos. Our second attempt was more successful when we had the idea to put a hand up the back of my son’s shirt and hold him gently in the right position but out of shot!

This travel involved multiple flights to the other side of the world with a three-year-old and an infant. It was so very, very long! Midway across the Pacific, I was ready to step out for some “fresh air”.

Passports for kids

When you’re ready to tackle air travel with the family the first consideration is those passports. New Zealand passports for adults are valid for 10 years whereas child passports are only valid for five years.

The New Zealand passport service allows you to apply for or renew passports online (subject to terms and conditions). By applying for passports online there is no need to print or send forms or visit a passport office. The online service also removes the need for professional passport photos to be taken. Applicants can take a photo with a smartphone or digital camera and upload the image with their application. See examples of acceptable photos here.

Who needs a passport?

All children (under 16 years old) and babies need to have their own passports when travelling overseas. To obtain a New Zealand passport you must be a New Zealand citizen.

Your child is a New Zealand citizen if:

  • They were born in New Zealand, Niue, the Cook Islands or Tokelau before 1 January 2006.
  • They were born on or after 1 January 2006 and at least one of their parents was a citizen or a permanent resident of New Zealand, Niue, the Cook Islands or Tokelau at the time of the child’s birth.
  • They qualify for a New Zealand citizenship certificate. Find out more here.

More information

Processing of a passport application usually takes around two to three weeks (not including delivery times).

For more information about applying or renewing a passport, click here.

When travelling overseas, it is advisable to register your travel with the Ministry of Foreign Affairs and Trade.

Please note that the above information was correct at the time of publication. Always check for the latest information with The Department of Internal Affairs before undertaking any overseas travel.

her world julieWritten by Julie Scanlon

Julie is Editor for Kidspot NZ and our MVP. Her hobbies include laughing uncontrollably at her own jokes, annoying her family by asking questions about movie plots, and never taking anything too seriously. She speaks a little Spanish and a lot of Yorkshire. 

Favourite motto to live by: “It ain’t nothing but a thing”

Hellers Crafty Cooks

Looking for convenient meal solutions at the end of a busy day? Hellers are here to make your life a whole lot easier and your dinner a lot yummier! Their new range of Hellers Crafty Cooks Diced Chorizo and Bacon Strips are here to do just that.

Ready to eat, you can add these in to your favourite dishes for quick and easy meals for your tribe. They’re in convenient twin packs so you can keep them fresher for longer. They’re also made in NZ and gluten-free with no artificial colours or flavours.

Unleash your inner chef and use these in frittatas, risottos, pastas, fried rice and salads – the list goes on! What do you think you’d use them in?

The Hellers Crafty Cooks range is available from Countdown stores nationwide and select Foodstuffs stores.

Caesar Salad with Hellers Diced Chorizo

Summer Frittata with Hellers Bacon Strips

We’ve given 100 families the chance to trial and review Hellers Crafty Cooks Diced Chorizo. See their photos and feedback below and read more of their reviews in the comments.

That was an easy Saturday night dinner and so healthy too 💕 Was so easy, hardly any prep, and best of all everyone loved it 😋

Tonykate

… A very tasty and versatile product, thank you again for allowing us to trial it.

Nikkib90

Overall, this was an awesome solution to weeknight meals. Super convenient, really tasty and a family favourite, making it a sure-fire winner …

Loloslunch

The diced Hellers Chorizo is so tasty and super convenient. We used the chorizo in pasta carbonara and fried rice … Great product! Thank you for this delicious trial.

VL15

… There is so much potential in using these ready to eat diced little morsels. One of my boys have asked for pieces in his school lunchbox tomorrow – so chorizo he shall get! … the Gluten Free factor is a huge positive … I think Hellers Crafty Cooks range might just have to be on our weekly shopping list as the whole fam gave them the big thumbs up!

Robmel

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Please note that the voucher will be sent to you via email from Hellers and will require printing before presentation in-store. The Hellers Crafty Cooks range is available from Countdown stores nationwide and select Foodstuffs stores.

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Philips Avent Double Electric Breast Pump

Star rating

Tried and tested by Kidspot parents

Kidspot parents gave Philips Avent Double Electric Breast Pump an overall rating of 5 out of 5!

In a new era of pumping that’s simple, fast and gentle, the Philips Avent Double Electric Breast Pump is an efficient design for convenient and comfortable use. The double pumping system enables you to save time by pumping both breasts simultaneously.

The Philips Avent Double Electric Breast Pump features new Natural Motion Technology that combines suction and nipple stimulation (inspired by the natural way that babies drink), for a quicker, natural milk release.* It can be finely tuned with 8 stimulation and 16 expression settings, allowing you to find the most comfortable and effective setting for you.

There’s also no need to worry about finding the right size shield. The motion of the pump and soft, flexible shield means the pump continually adapts to your nipple size and fits 99.98% of nipples (up to 30mm).**

The pump is easy to assemble and clean, and is compatible with the Philips Avent Breast Milk Storage System, making it simple to store and feed your baby your expressed milk. The lightweight and quiet design make it easy to express at work or on the go.

Natural Motion Technology is available in both single and double electric pumps.

Inspired by baby, effective for mum

  • Easy cleaning & assembly
  • Memory function remembers your last settings
  • Quiet motor with a slimline design (corded use only).
  • 8 stimulation and 16 expression settings
  • Relax as you express thanks to a design that lets you sit upright rather than having to lean forward
  • Pause/Play function
  • Tailor-made travel bag & insulation pouch

Philips Avent Electric Breast Pump

Learn more about Philips Avent Breast Pumps or explore the entire breastfeeding range at www.philips.co.nz/breastpumps

* Based on product trial results with 20 mothers who were experienced with breast pumps and who had none of the known side effects of breastfeeding or breast pump use at the time of the study (Netherlands, 2019), average score for single electric and double electric breast pump; 95% of participants agree that our breast pumps are effective (single electric); 100% of participants agree that our breast pumps are effective (double electric).

**Up to 30mm

We gave five members the opportunity to trial and review the Phillips Avent Double Electric Breast Pump. See their reviews and photos below and read more in the comments.

The Philips Avent Double Electric [Breast] Pump is quiet and very comfortable to use. It doesn’t drip when removing as it has a ridge just inside the flange that catches any milk as you remove it from your breast. I can see down through the pump from the top at how much is dropping into the bottle so it’s easy to monitor my milk flow. 10/10 for this product I highly recommend.

TheNZsuperNanny

All in all I’d highly recommend this pump, it is efficient, user friendly, and above all else comfortable to use- definitely the best home pump I’ve used so far.

Kayleigh Jukes

I’ve used this for about a week every day and each day I have seen great results, within 15minutes I have been getting atleast 50-80mls from each breast, so imagine what a full pumping session will provide!

taliajordane01

The Philips Avent Double Electric [Breast] Pump is a dream to use, having the flexible shield size means you don’t need to measure your nipples and then make sure you are using the right size for you, this pump literally works for everyone. The 16 expression settings is the best thing if your supply is a bit lower, as you just find the setting that best fits your day. It literally gets your letdown flowing within 10 seconds!! I was so impressed …

mazdagirl

Sleek, easy to use and convenient; it’s definitely the one-stop shop of breast pumps, particularly that it has the double pump capability too. I would definitely recommend this pump to any new mum (or seasoned mum who needs an upgrade from your clunky old machine). You’re worth it!

Yasminn

Philips Avent Double Electric Breast Pump

Philips Avent Double Electric Breast Pump

Philips Avent Double Electric Breast Pump

Philips Avent Double Electric Breast Pump

Philips Avent Double Electric Breast Pump

Philips Avent Double Electric Breast Pump

Philips Avent Double Electric Breast Pump

Philips Avent Double Electric Breast Pump

Philips Avent Double Electric Breast Pump

Philips Avent Double Electric Breast Pump

Philips Avent Double Electric Breast Pump

Philips Avent Double Electric Breast Pump

Philips Avent Double Electric Breast Pump

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  • If you have received the product for review, please scroll to the bottom of the page and add your feedback as a new comment.
  • Upload your review photos/videos to this Dropbox folder.
  • Each selected reviewer will receive: 1 x Philips Avent Double Electric Breast Pump.
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When To Seek Help From A Fertility Expert

Falling pregnant … it sounds simple, almost accidental! Of course, it’s not always that easy. Whether it’s your first child or your fifth, when you’ve decided that the time is right to conceive, waiting for that thin blue line to appear can seem like the longest minute of your life (or at least since the last time you peed on a stick!).

If you find that conception is taking longer than you had hoped, you may be wondering if you should seek the assistance of a fertility expert.

What affects my chances of conceiving?

The odds of conceiving depend upon a few factors, plus a bit of luck! A woman’s age plays a big part in fertility. A woman in her mid-20s without any fertility issues will have about a 15-25% chance each month of conception if intercourse happens during the fertile phase. However, after age 30 fertility begins to drop and more so after age 40.1

Understanding your fertility cycle can be highly beneficial in improving your chances of conception. Also, the amount of sex that you have matters. Around 84% of couples who have been having regular unprotected sex (every 2 or 3 days) will fall pregnant within a year.2

Other factors that can affect fertility include:2

  • Being overweight or severely underweight can affect ovulation
  • Some sexually transmitted infections (STIs) can affect fertility
  • Smoking (including passive smoking) may reduce semen quality
  • Drinking too much alcohol can affect sperm quality
  • Exposure to environmental factors like pesticides, solvents and metals has been shown to affect male fertility
  • Stress may affect ovulation and sperm production but can also lead to a loss of sex drive
  • Conditions like polycystic ovaries, endometriosis or low sperm count may also have an impact. Speak to your healthcare professional if you are concerned about any of these conditions.

You are not alone

Around 1 in 7 couples may have difficulty conceiving.2 If you’re young and have been trying for a year, it’s recommended to talk to your GP or health provider about being referred to a fertility specialist. If you’re a woman aged 36 and over, or either partner has had fertility issues in the past, it’s advisable to only wait for six months of trying before seeking help.

The fertility specialist can determine your options for fertility assessment and possible treatment for both you and your partner

Finding The Balance: How To Juggle Work & Home Life As A Parent

The balance between home and work life as a parent is a forever quest. Often work and keeping the family going takes overhand and filling our own cup tends to fall to the bottom of the list.

As a coach who works with stressed and overworked professionals, I often see self-care fall to the bottom of the to-do pile. There are only so many hours in the day and when we spend 30-40 hours a week at work, finding enough time for all the other things in our busy family lives can be a challenge at the best of times. Something just always seems to give.

Imagine you could have a life where you have time for it all. A life where you get out of bed in the morning feeling content and excited for what’s ahead. A life with a satisfying career and work life, more than enough quality time with the family and enough energy to fill our personal and relationship cups.

It is possible. In fact, it is possible for anyone. And how do I know this? Because I have tried, tested, failed and eventually succeeded, and now I help my clients and you do the same.

One thing I am not going to do is sugarcoat the process. It’s a lot of fun but you will also run into a few challenges along the way. Whatever you do, do not jump off the train mid-journey.

Here are a few key concepts you need to consider.

First of all patience and perseverance. The best things in life to learn often come by trial and error and cultivating corresponding practices over time. You might find 10 ways that don’t work just to discover one way that really does. What distinguishes the people that succeed from the people that fail to achieve their goals is the ones that just keep trying again and again until they succeed.

I liken it to parenting. We might have a crappy day where we lose our cool. But that doesn’t stop us from getting up again the next day and trying again. If you apply the same kind of attitude to figuring out a work and life balance that works for you and your family you are guaranteed to hit your goal.

Secondly, there is no one size fits all. What works for somebody you know may not work for you and vice versa. It’s great to draw inspiration from others. Just make sure that you tune in with yourself and what really resonates and sits with you. When it comes to crafting our lives, there are virtually no rules besides the ones you make or decide to adhere to.

Thirdly, a work-life balance is an art form, not a science. Although science can give us an understanding and insight into something, how we then implement this knowledge in life is an art form, a creation. In the process of balancing your life in a way that works better for you, allow yourself to connect to your creative genius.

And four, allow for flexibility and growth. Just like our living cells in our human body, our spirit and mind are ever evolving and growing. What worked for us 10 years ago may not work for us so well now. Allow yourself to become aware of when those shifts and that growth happen and take it into consideration as you go.

Juggle work and home life

5 steps to success

Here are the 5 steps to finding a better work-life balance.

Taking stock

Take a snapshot of where you are right now and figure out what’s working for you and what isn’t. Before we go about creating change in our life it’s really important to figure out what you are working with. Imagine trying to paint a painting without knowing what canvas you have.

Take a piece of paper and draw a line in the middle. On one side write what you are loving about life right now and on the other write down what you are struggling with. This exercise will quickly put things into perspective for you. Allow yourself to delve deep into this, there is no right or wrong just write down whatever is coming up for you. This exercise is the basis for the next steps coming up so don’t rush it!

What do you truly desire?

Just recently I was reminded again to come back to what it is that I truly desire in my life. It’s really easy to get focused on what we want to do, create or own – all the materialistic things of this world. But when we start to focus on how we want to be instead we activate a feeling inside of us. A vibe.

Think about how you want life to feel and what kind of experiences you want to have. Just making a list on a piece of paper or in your journal will suffice. Keep this list in mind as you go through your day and remember that you can add to this at any time. It is a living thing and sometimes the answers don’t come straight away. Reading through your list each morning over a cup of coffee or as part of your morning routine is a great way to set yourself up for the day and hold those intentions close to you. Over the coming weeks, you will find yourself noticing what things in your life align with your list and what things don’t.

Declutter what doesn’t serve you anymore

Decluttering is something we often do in our homes or physical spaces. And it is such a powerful tool to apply in all areas of our life.

What is it, considering your work-life balance, that you can let go of right now and/or in the future? A behaviour, a task, a commitment, a thought or a belief that’s limiting you. Is there something you want to stop doing or do less of? Or are there some new boundaries you need to put in place and communicate, some things you need to say no to? When we stop doing or do less of the things that don’t actually bring us joy or a benefit anymore we make space for new things that do.

Make time for fun, laughter and filling your cup

Life can feel very serious as an adult but it doesn’t have to be. Make a conscious effort to spend more time doing fun things whether this is on your own or with family and friends, in your personal or professional life. And when I say fun things, I mean things that make your soul feel alive!

A good starting point is to think about things that have filled your cup and made you feel good in the past and that you maybe have stopped doing for yourself. Life is here to be enjoyed! Joy in our every day actually helps us be more resilient to daily stresses because our whole attitude and perception shifts and problems become things to solve not things that break us. It’s important to put you and your happiness first because you can’t keep pouring from an empty cup and no one benefits from your burnout. Least of all you and your family.

Plan your moves, get an accountability buddy and start doing!

Setting intentions and thinking or writing about what we want to change is an important part of the process. But sh** don’t happen if you don’t start doing and get somebody to hold you accountable for your next moves. Creating a time plan that allows for work and play, aligned with what is important to you, is a crucial step in turning thoughts and intentions into reality. Essentially you are now implementing what you have learnt about yourself into your everyday life. Consider your daily personal routines and desires, family and work commitments and block out your time. Share this with your other half or a friend to hold you accountable for what you set out and come back to this regularly to check in how things are going.

Just remember, it’s not about getting it perfect. Your plan will be a work in progress and will adjust over time as you put things into practice. Stay aware and be kind to yourself throughout this process. You are changing habits and ways of being you may have been doing for most of your life and in some cases, this can take time.

It blows my mind every time I see a client take on this process wholeheartedly. The profound change and discoveries that happen throughout this process are such a privilege to watch and I often get to learn so much about myself too.

If you are finding this process a bit daunting, that’s okay. Find a buddy to do this with you or reach out to me for a complimentary session to see how I can support you on your journey from survival to thriving.

With love and gratitude always.

Article written by Sophie K for Kidspot

Sophie K

About Sophie K

Sophie is a coach and creator of The Thrive Guide, a mother of two, a joy seeker and a lover of adventure. She helps her fellow humans to find more time, confidence and ultimately joy in their everyday lives through empowering them at their core.

She knows what it feels like to be stressed and overwhelmed; almost constantly. Feel like there aren’t enough hours in the day to do everything. Between her professional and personal life in the past there just wasn’t enough time or energy left for joy. The result? Life often seemed hard and complicated. Her mental and physical health suffered. The people she loved the most ended up getting the worst of her. Including herself.

It took a major life event for her to realize that she needed more. She wanted to feel at ease, be the best version of herself for her kids, make time for what was important to her and follow what brought her joy and happiness deep down. Life is just too short to spend it feeling unfulfilled.

She loves to laugh and see the funny side of life and has a deep interest in people, their stories and what makes them tick. She has been running her business since 2020 and is excited to help make this world a better place for all our generations to come.

Visit her website www.sophiek.co.nz for more or get in touch via hello@sophiek.co.nz to book a complimentary chat.

11 Side-Hustles for Full-Time Mums

If lockdowns and the Covid-19 pandemic did anything, it gave otherwise busy mums the opportunity to develop a side hustle.

A good way to help pay the bills and allow you to enjoy the odd luxury here and there, side hustles come in many different forms. One of the best things about them is that they often do not involve a huge effort or investment upfront. Instead, all they require is a little imagination, drive and an entrepreneurial spirit.

Side hustles can be built around your lifestyle too. So you can easily fit them in around school runs, play dates, coffee with the girls, date night and of course your day job.

If you are looking to make some more money to improve your financial position, here are 11 side hustles for full-time mums you should consider.

1. Become an accommodation host

Perhaps the easiest way to make some extra money is to rent out your spare room or granny flat. Assuming zoning regulations allow you to do this (you will need to check with your local council) there are plenty of platforms like Airbnb, Homeaway and Flipkey, which you can sign up to become an accommodation host.

The good thing about these platforms is that they invest a lot of time and effort to ensure both the users and hosts enjoy safe and secure environments. One of these measures includes a host’s ability to specify that the room is only available to people of their gender.

The process of becoming an accommodation host and these platforms and listing your property is always free. So it is very low risk in terms of financial outlay.

2. Rent out other things

As well as renting out your spare room, there are several other things you can make money from by putting them up for hire. This includes your shed, driveway or even your car.

It may not have occurred to you previously, but there is a high demand for affordable storage space. Just think of how many commercial storage facilities there are in your local area (and how expensive they are). Therefore, why not take advantage of this growing market and rent out your shed for storage?

Services like Spacer connect members of the local community who need space to store their possessions with others who offer it at a very cost-effective price.

Similarly, if you don’t have a car yourself, or have room in your driveway for another vehicle, consider hiring out your space. This can be a great option if you live near a sports stadium or major concert venue that has limited parking. Sites like Parkhound present those requiring a parking space with available options from local businesses or residents.

Something else you might not have been aware of is the possibility to generate an income from renting out your car. This is a particularly good option if you have at least two vehicles in the household, one of which you don’t use that often.

If this is the case, signing up for services like Car Next Door, DriveMyCar and Private Fleet might be a good option.

3. Become an Uber Driver

If you don’t fancy hiring your car out, then why not use it to become an Uber Driver?

Some drivers can earn up to AUD$35 an hour in ride-sharing or delivering food via Uber Eats. The best thing about doing it is that you can work as few or as many hours as you want.

You might even be able to fit in a drive on the way to school pick-ups or from school drop-offs.

4. Run a car boot or garage sale

As a way to make a little extra money, it is always good to run a car boot or garage sale. The good thing about doing this is you can sell anything – after all one person’s trash is another person’s treasure.

It also gives you a good excuse to declutter your home too. Garage sales are essentially free to run, although depending on your location, you might not get too much foot traffic. Car boot sales, by contrast, might involve a nominal cost, but they are generally visited by lots of people.

5. Sell your possessions online

If you don’t have that many items you want to part company with or can’t find the time to run a car boot or garage sale, then why not turn to Facebook Marketplace or TradeMe?

This is a popular side hustle for many mothers as you can easily make a bit of extra cash selling clothes, toys, books or other miscellaneous items you no longer require.

6. Become a tutor

If you excel in one particular academic subject or if you have developed quite a bit of knowledge from helping your kids with their homework, then you might consider becoming a tutor.

You can do this either through home tutoring or via online platforms like tutorly. Both of which can be lucrative ways of making money on the side.

7. Offer to look after dogs

Love dogs? Then why not channel this passion for fur babies into a revenue stream?

By creating a profile on Mad Paws, you can offer your services for dog walking, doggy play dates, grooming or pet-sitting. Again this can fit into your lifestyle, so you can spend as much or little time doing this as you want. It is also a great way to keep in shape too!

8. Design and sell products online

If you are a creative type, you can embrace your skills to design and sell arts and crafts.

This could take the form of anything from canvas art, photography and towels to stickers, phone cases or t-shirts. Websites like Printify and RedBubble allow you to mock up a range of products just by uploading an image or design you created. They even take care of printing and fulfilment for you through their network of suppliers.

You can sell these products via Etsy or your website. You can promote through social media channels like Facebook and Instagram – both of which have their online shops too.

9. Sell at markets or a pop-up store

Once you design and have the products produced, you can even sell them at markets or a pop-up store.

On any given day, there is bound to be a market happening in your local area. So if you have the time, it would be worth setting yourself up with a stall. There are also usually plenty of empty retail outlets around which you can hire out for a day or week. If this is something you would consider doing regularly, you should consider getting a Smartpay EFTPOS machine to help you quickly and easily process payments.

10. Become a freelancer

Another option many mums decide to do is to become a freelancer.

Sites like Upwork, Fiverr and Airtasker provide plenty of opportunities to do short-term projects for people. This includes everything from writing articles, graphic design and secretarial work to performing voice-overs, gardening and cleaning.

There is always a huge volume of work available, and on these platforms, you can earn anywhere from $10 to 100+ per hour. Alternatively, if you work on a project basis, a fixed price can be determined beforehand.

11. Write an eBook

If you love writing, then why not use this talent to write eBooks which you can sell on Amazon? You can write a book about any subject you want – whether it be instructional or fictional and you can publish it for free via Kindle Direct Publishing.

Need inspiration? Well, you are a mum, so how about parenting tips?

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When Is It Time To Check In With Your Fertility?

When you’ve made the decision to start or add to your family it can be frustrating to find that conception can be a tricky thing to navigate.

If you find that conception is taking longer than you had hoped, you may be wondering if you should speak to a health professional about fertility.

What affects the chances of conceiving?

The odds of successful conception depend upon a few factors. Of course, it takes two to make a baby and either or both partners may have fertility factors that play a part.

Understanding your partner’s fertility cycle can be highly beneficial in improving your chances of conception. Also, the amount of sex that you have matters. Most couples who have been having regular unprotected sex (every 2 or 3 days) will fall pregnant within a year.1 A woman’s age plays a big part in fertility.

Male fertility factors may include:2

  • Sperm count
  • Sperm function (the sperm’s ability to move to or penetrate the egg)
  • Delivery of sperm
  • Exposure to environmental factors, including toxins, radiation and industrial chemicals
  • Alcohol consumption
  • Body weight
  • Smoking (including passive smoking)
  • Anabolic steroids or certain types of illicit drug use
  • Illnesses, injuries, or chronic health problems. Speak to your healthcare professional if you are concerned.

Keep your cool!

There’s a reason testicles are outside the body and that’s because they prefer to be a couple of degrees lower than your body temperature for the best environment for sperm production and function. Avoiding exposure to prolonged, elevated temperatures like in a sauna or hot tub is recommended as it may temporarily affect your sperm count.3 The research is not fully conclusive, but sitting for long periods, wearing tight clothing or having a laptop in your lap for a long period of time may also increase the temperature of the scrotum.

You are not alone

Around 1 in 7 couples may have difficulty conceiving.1 If you’re young and have been trying for a year, it’s recommended to talk to your GP or health provider about being referred to a fertility specialist.

Dads Tell: Things I Wish I Knew Before Becoming A Dad

We wanted to hear from those with experience what it’s really like to be a father, so we put a call out to all Kidspot dads: “Tell us what you wish you knew before becoming a dad.”

They shared with us practical tips, funny anecdotes, emotional outpourings, and advice for those who are becoming a dad for the first time. Here’s some of what they shared.

But first … a limerick shared by Greydon:

Although it’s a rough ride to start
(you’re so worried you’re on the wrong path)
each second you spend,
with your new life-long-friend,
will fill up your (sleep-deprived) heart!

Tips for new dads

Tips for new dads

I wish I knew tricks for better sleep! I have baby number 2 now and we have figured out a few tricks that help. A shusher is a great tool, we’ve used it from day 1 and it indicates sleep time. A white noise machine helps with dulling all the other noises, including my snoring, wifey says! Also, a big busy day or especially a trip to the beach will tire baby out which generally leads to a far better sleep than if we have a chill day. – Peter

You’ll never be a perfect parent but that doesn’t mean you can’t try to better yourself. Observe how others raise their kids. Ask your parents for advice. Read books. Never stop learning. – Chris

There’s not actually much you can do with your newborn baby, as it’s either feeding or sleeping, so to feel really appreciated and useful, I’d bathe the baby every night. That was my one important job. Such a special bonding time too. – Chrus

They won’t be little for long, so enjoy those fun pre-school years, and make sure to read them lots of stories, and make them laugh a lot. Those are the memories they will cherish when they’re older. – Danny

I would like to have known that there are no magic answers to the questions, no book will tell you everything you need to know. Most of it comes with time and experience and every child is different, don’t stress if they don’t fit the mould. – Mark

I wish I knew it’s better to be well-prepared with all the essential shopping and do not leave anything to be done after the birth, because you get occupied right after childbirth (and try to adjust your sleeping routine). Moreover, it’s a good idea to keep some meals frozen so that in case you cannot manage healthy cooking, you will have an option to quickly heat up the saved food. Make good use of your time to give your spouse good rest and be there for your little one. – Adnan

To save your back in those first three months, make sure the bassinet and the change tables are at least as high as your waist. Stroller envy is also a thing. If you don’t splash out for the fancy wheels you will be checking out the other wheels whenever they pass you by or at a meet-up. And most of all it goes by so fast so speak with your employer and double down on your leave and get as much of it as possible as you will miss out on some moments that you can never capture again. – Neil

I wish I truly knew the time required for dealing with a newborn. You always hear stories about how sleep-deprived new parents will be and how there is no time to do anything else but care for the baby. However, no one truly understands this until they have experienced it! If I knew, I would have prepared a bit more and even taken more time off work. Other things I wished I knew are the importance of burping after feeding, how many diaper changes there are, how mums need a lot of emotional support and how breastfeeding can be difficult. I think the key is to stay persistent and support your partner through this period of change and it only gets better! So happy for the experience as my child is nothing but a blessing – can’t wait to experience the toddler stage! – Edwin

The eye-openers

eye-opening moments of fatherhood

I wish I knew … that one little person would change my life forever and make me far less selfish. I have learnt that it’s ok to show emotion and love and communicating your feelings is positive. The sense of responsibility can be overwhelming. – Ricky

I wish I knew … that baby acne is a thing! Freaked me out to see acne on my daughter’s face when she was a newborn! Thought it was only something teenagers got! – James

Time goes quick! So enjoy every moment while your kids are young, turn off the autopilot and take it all in because in no time you will have a 15-year-old son, who pulls away when you hug and kiss them, gets angry coz you borrow his t-shirts, who wears and puts holes in your good socks, laughs at you for jumping into the friendly basketball game with friends because that’s your way of being supportive and eats all the food and leaves without cleaning! – Kieran

I wish I knew exactly how little sleep I would get and how tough that would be! But it also affects how I look after my wife and need to keep the energy levels up. – Ali

I wish I knew that it’s ok to be a support that sometimes needs support too. For example, Google can be your best friend as well as an unhelpful sidekick. Finding the answer you want isn’t necessarily the same as what you need but you can pretty much Google anything to support your argument. Also – No one seems to tell you that as a new parent you will quite often turn into the world’s greatest problem-solving super baby whispering super sleuth late at night when trying to comfort an upset newborn. So looking back I wish I was more comfortable with being ok not knowing the answer and asking for help. It’s ok to be the support and ask for support too. – Jacob

I wish I would have known to go easier on myself. The first year and parenting experience as a father is nothing like what movies, the media, and even friends describe. There are ebbs and flows, energetic weekends, exhausted mornings, and everything that millions of others experience in their own unique way. I learned during that first year to be easy on myself, and know that we are all doing the best we can to be a great parent. – Arsenio

I wish I knew the weight of her worries and the mental load of a newborn. Mum’s the word when baby is born, but there is so much Dad can do as well to ease Mum’s mind. Offer her a massage, make sure her water is topped up, run her a bath, do the housework, have her lunch and snacks ready to grab on the go. At the very least. Mums are a force to be reckoned with for all they do and the devotion they have to persevere in hard times where they may feel unseen. – Matt

The emotional moments

First time dads

I wish I knew how much my little girl would steal my heart! – Ben

The rollercoaster of emotions while your partner is in labour can be so intense but seeing your baby for the first time is so magic. – Sean

I wish I knew patience, I know it’s a huge part of being a parent and especially with young toddlers. Everything takes time and only in time can things grow and mature, just like myself. – Kelly

I wish I knew how much I would be affected every time my children were sick. I found them being sick very stressful. Now that they are older I would tell other Dads that you don’t need to rush to the A&E every time they are unwell. – Rob

It’s OK to be nervous – no 2 kids are the same so there’s no chance you’ll ever be fully prepared. You’ll learn as you go and trusted, wise people are always happy to answer your questions! – Aaron

You’ll never sleep the same again, don’t expect to eat a hot dinner for a while, getting ready to go out takes an extra 30min-1 hour. They are the best thing that will ever happen in your life. When they smile/laugh it is the best thing that you can ever experience. – Adam

The funny bits of fatherhood

Funny bits of fatherhood

That cute little baby can make poo shoot all the way from the nappy to the back of the neck and through layers of clothing and when you try to take off his clothes it spreads even worse – Berwyn

I wish I knew that babies get heavier the longer you hold them. Especially when they don’t want to be in their pushchair and you have to carry them for a couple of kilometres! – Perry

Overnight I would officially have a Dad bod. – Jamie

You really should have a cloth on hand to cover a little man’s boy parts at nappy change time or you will wear it! – Johnathan

Do not hold a just-fed baby up in the air lying down, they will be sick in your face! – Mike

I wish I knew … just how many soft play areas we would have to visit! – John

I wish I knew … that one of the children after getting married would come home with their wife and have two children of their own while living with us for eight years! – Rob

I was worried I was never going to get used to my boy’s slobber, but there’s nothing he can do that will gross me out anymore! Other kids still gross me out though haha. – Troy

I wish I knew how much poos and wees were involved. – Ethan

Is A Memory Foam Mattress Good For Kids?

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Children are still growing and developing, so their sleeping needs differ from those of adults. As a parent, you want to ensure that your child gets the best possible sleep every night. You want them to be comfortable, happy, and well-rested.

According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, children should get 10–13 hours of sleep per night between ages 3 and 5, 9–12 hours from 6 to 12 years old, then 8-10 as they approach adulthood.

Considering your child’s age, size, and weight is crucial before purchasing a mattress. But how do you know what mattress is best for your child? The answer is getting a mattress that is firm enough to provide comfort and support in all areas of the body.

Editor’s note: The New Zealand Ministry of Health recommends that for babies up to the age of 12 months, the bed should have a firm and flat mattress, there should be no gaps between the bed frame and the mattress, and there should be nothing in the bed that might cover your baby’s face, lift their head or choke them. Source: Keeping baby safe in their own bed.

It’s simple to say a memory foam mattress is the best choice for your child. This article will cover why a memory foam mattress is suitable for kids over 12 months old, factors to consider before purchasing, and why it may be better for kids than a traditional mattress. So, let’s get started.

Why is a quality memory foam mattress good for kids?

The following are the reasons why you may consider a good quality memory foam mattress for your kid:

Better support

The mattress can provide better support than some other materials in the market. It may help your child sleep freely without back pain or other issues.

Ergonomic to reduce pressure points

The mattress is ergonomic, which will help to give your kid a good night’s sleep. It’s designed in such a way that it follows the natural curvature of kids’ bodies and thus ensures that there’s no pressure put on any particular part of their body while sleeping. This may help to reduce the chances of back pain or any other body aches. This is important because it can help to prevent other health issues that can arise from sleeping on an old mattress that no longer supports you correctly.

Therapeutic

You can use the mattress as a therapeutic tool for your kid. When they have any problem with their body, you can place them on the mattress and let them rest.

Soft and comfortable

The mattress is soft and comfortable. It’ll make your kid feel like they’re sleeping on a cloud. The mattress is also easy to clean, so you don’t have to worry about stains or dirt getting into the mattress.

Reduce motion transfer and noise levels

The mattress will reduce your kid’s room’s motion transfer and noise levels. So, suppose your kid has a problem with sleeping due to noise or excessive movement during sleep. In that case, this makes it a perfect option to absorb unnecessary distress the kid may be encountering.

Durable

The mattress is durable and long-lasting; it’ll serve you for several years without any problem. The mattress is also made of quality materials that will last many years.

It is hypoallergenic

The mattress is hypoallergenic, so it won’t cause any allergic reaction in your kid. The mattress is made of natural materials safe for kids’ skin and bodies.

Memory foam mattress or traditional mattress?

This is a pervasive question. Many people prefer memory foam mattresses over traditional ones, and vice-versa. These few points will help you make the best decision:

  • If your child has allergies, a memory foam mattress may be better because it doesn’t trap dust and allergens.
  • Memory foam mattresses tend to be more durable than traditional ones.
  • Memory foam mattresses are also very comfortable and can support your child’s body in different ways.
  • A memory foam mattress is easy to clean and maintain, which makes it more hygienic than a traditional mattress.

These points show that a memory foam mattress may be better for your child than a traditional one.

Factors to consider before purchasing

It always sounds great to purchase a mattress that’ll boost your kid’s health – a memory foam mattress, as it’s been said. However, before you buy, consider the necessary factors before purchasing one such as:

  • The size of your child – The mattress should be big enough to fit your kid. So, measure the size of your kid before purchasing a mattress.
  • Your child’s weight – Your child’s weight is crucial because it’ll help determine how firm or soft the mattress should be.
  • The age of your child – Your kid’s age is essential because it affects which type of mattress to consider. If your child is under 12 months old a memory foam mattress is unsuitable. But if your kid is a few years old, you can consider a memory foam mattress.
  • The price – Memory foam mattresses can be expensive, so it’s best to research the product before purchasing it. You can also compare prices with other brands to see whether you’re getting a good deal.

A memory foam mattress may be the best bed choice for kids. It provides your child with many benefits, including better sleep and comfort and a hygienic sleeping environment. If you’re looking for a suitable mattress for your child, consider buying a memory foam mattress.

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The Guide For People Pleasers: How To Start Saying No & Feel Good About It

Have you ever said yes to something in order to avoid an argument or a possible conflict? And deep down you knew you were going against what you actually wanted?

Maybe you do this quite often? Just so you can “keep the peace”… You ignore that heavy feeling in the pit of your stomach, that resentment bubbling up as you utter the words. And as soon as they have left your lips you feel stressed out?

Is this you? Or do you know someone who is?

Then this is a guide for you.

You are not alone

People-pleasing is a very common behaviour in any type of relationship, professional or personal. It can occur in all areas of our lives. At home with our partners and kids, with family and friends, at work, or during social engagements. Virtually nobody is immune to it.

My name is Sophie and I am a vitality coach. People and happiness is my business. In my personal and professional life, I rarely come across someone who does not struggle to say no when they feel like they should say yes to keep others happy.

For many years I was a people pleaser myself. I would bend over backwards, to do things for others. Things I actually didn’t want to do. Things I thought I had to do.

I remember thinking so often, “I don’t wanna do this” and then hear myself say “Yea, of course I can do that for you”. Not only did people-pleasing rob me of my joy and fun in everyday life, but it also caused me a lot of stress in my personal and professional life. I harboured resentment and frustration towards others the more I succumbed to my people-pleasing ways.

I didn’t know why I was doing this at the time. It was an automatic behaviour.

But thankfully, one day the glorious time came when the penny finally dropped and I realized that me trying to please others didn’t actually serve others or my relationships with them. Least of all the relationship with myself.

In fact, I had created a minefield of negative thoughts and toxic behaviours that made my life a lot harder than it actually needed to be. So I am writing this article for you, in the hope that this may be the day where the penny drops for you too.

How to say no and feel good about it

The reason we people please

The root of people-pleasing lies in the depths of our self-worth and self-confidence. Somewhere deep down someone who people pleases believes that if they don’t do what the other person wants, the other person will think of them less, like them less and respect them less. Essentially people pleasers subconsciously believe that saying no means the loss of love and connection with another person.

This belief is likely to be based on a childhood experience in response to a specific scenario. So let me put this into perspective for you.

Imagine you had a friend at primary school you were playing with during break time. Your friend asked you to play a different game with her. You said, “No, I don’t want to play this game. I want to just keep playing here”.

In response, your friend shrugs her shoulders, says, “Okay” and goes and plays with another kid.

Now, this scenario isn’t the problem, it’s what occurs after this.

At break time the next day, you see your friend playing with that same kid again, playing the game you didn’t want to play the day before.

At this point, you may start thinking things like, “Oh, she has a new friend. What if she doesn’t like me anymore?” or “Maybe she is not my friend anymore because I didn’t play the game with her yesterday”.

And in response to those thoughts, you decide that maybe you should have just said yes and next time you will just play whatever your friend wants to play. Maybe then your friend will keep playing with you too. Now, your confidence in asking for what you want or need going forward is negatively affected and your sense of self-worth has been lowered simply because of how you perceived your friend’s actions.

It’s important to understand that as a small child, we are the centre of our world, meaning we make other people’s actions and decisions mean something about us. When in fact, other people’s actions and decisions are a reflection of them.

This dynamic isn’t just the root cause of people-pleasing but many other subconscious behaviours we form throughout our childhood are then acted out as adults.

Why people-pleasing is toxic for your relationships

Unhealthy patterns and boundaries

Healthy boundaries are a key component to any functioning relationship, personally and professionally. They give us a guide to how we and the other person want to be treated and communicated with, meaning everybody gets to feel safe and secure. This is necessary for both people in order to have a thriving relationship. Thriving cannot occur without a deep sense of safety.

When we people please we overextend ourselves and cross our own boundaries for others. This is rooted in a belief that we must put others’ needs before our own in order to feel safe in the relationship.

Over time, we start to feel unheard and unseen, misunderstood, taken advantage of, blindsided and underappreciated which undermines that very sense of safety and security we were aiming for.

Erosion of confidence & self-worth: The road to resentment

Confidence within ourselves and a feeling of worthiness is a critical part of healthy relationships. It allows us to be vulnerable, open up to others, communicate effectively, and help us distinguish and make sense of our own feelings. Lack of confidence and self-worth fosters insecurity, leading to the rise of jealousy and impacting our ability to receive love in all forms, even if it is freely given.

People-pleasing particularly erodes your own confidence and self-worth because desires stay unmet and unvocalized. All of this can lead to resentment over time which is toxic and can be fatal for any relationship. It destroys the connection and love for the other person, leaving you feeling bitter and angry.

At this point, the unmet needs are often vocalised and can come as a shock and surprise to the other person who in many cases was unaware of the unmet needs. This often causes friction within a relationship and requires a whole new process to resolve the situation.

Loss of genuine connection with self and others

To speak our truth without fear of judgment or rejection, asking for what we want or saying no to what we don’t want, and honouring what is really important to us, are all crucial aspects in a healthy and functioning relationship. That way we can form a genuine relationship or friendship that is based on mutual attraction. Not speaking our authentic truth keeps us disconnected from ourselves and from others and has an impact on our ability to choose compatible friends, partners and work colleagues.

Simply put, we end up connecting with people who might not really be our tribe.

People-pleasing doesn’t allow us to genuinely learn about each other’s and our own strengths and weaknesses, what we like and don’t like. It doesn’t allow us to connect on a deeper level and truly get to know one another. People-pleasing sabotages our relationship with ourself and others and stops us from what most of us genuinely desire – to be seen, heard, understood, respected, loved, and feel important.

How to say no and feel good about it

How to make saying no your superpower and feel good about it

So now that you know why we people please and the negative impact this behaviour has on you and your relationships, let’s talk about how to progress from here. No matter where you are in your people-pleasing journey these following points can help you as a guide to start honouring your own needs, communicate and uphold those and feel good about it at the same time.

Think of it as becoming an advocate for yourself and what helps you feel content in life. As a recovering people pleaser myself, I know that unlearning a lifelong pattern of people-pleasing and becoming an advocate or the voice for our own needs is a process. It’s not about getting it right and perfect the first time or even the 10th or 100th time.

It’s about becoming aware of how our people-pleasing patterns play out, doing the best we can in the moment, reflecting on what worked well and what didn’t work so well and trying again the next day. It’s simply about putting what we have learnt into practice. Because practice makes competent.

Your guide to becoming an advocate for yourself

1. Dial in with your intuition: When you are making decisions, check in with yourself and always ask yourself what you actually want. Have a conversation with yourself. Whether you decide to journal it out or ponder over a cup of coffee, it doesn’t matter. What matters is that you do and that you listen to yourself.

Ask yourself: Do you feel empowered, or excited when thinking about this decision or possibility? Does it bring you joy or some kind of benefit? How does it feel in your heart, how does it feel in your gut? Does it meet your needs?

2. Take your time: Decisions made in haste can often be decisions we regret or wish we made differently later on. Sometimes we need time to consider all our bases before moving ahead and that is okay. Running through scenarios and visualising yourself in that scenario can help us feel whether this is right for us.

It’s like trying on clothes in a clothing shop and deciding if you like wearing it or not. If the answer is no, there is no harm done in putting the item back and trying something else. Allow yourself to enjoy the process, making decisions can be fun.

3. Uphold your boundaries: Your boundaries are based on what is important to you and your beliefs and values in life. Get really clear on those so you can uphold your boundaries firmly and solidly even when it feels uncomfortable at first. In life there is no right or wrong as such, there is only a right or wrong for you. When you start letting go of your people-pleasing ways, start small. Say yes to your friend buying you coffee, so no to a free pamphlet you actually don’t want and work your way up from there.

4. Communicate your decisions and boundaries with love and kindness: Communication is a cornerstone for a healthy relationship with yourself and with others. It helps us find understanding and compassion for different points of view. When we communicate our decisions, thoughts and feelings we allow others to find understanding for what is important to us too. Be mindful of how you communicate to others and infuse your speaking with as much love and kindness as possible. And remember communication is a two-way street. Listening to others is just as important as speaking your truth.

5. Remind yourself it’s okay to say no: When you discover how you became a people pleaser and why, it is much easier to remind yourself that love and connection is not all about saying yes all the time. Love and connection is about letting ourselves and others be as we are without fear of judgment and rejection and saying no to things that don’t serve us is part of that. Remember, whenever you say no to something that doesn’t serve you, you say yes to something that does.

6. Heal your past wounds: The key to progress in our lives is to heal our past experiences that have caused us pain and worry. If we heal these past experiences for ourselves we spend less energy on those going forward and have more energy for growth, moving forward and for the things that actually bring us joy in life. It is a very personal process and however you choose to go about this is up to you. Just start anywhere and remember it’s okay to seek support and guidance on your journey.

How to say no and feel good about it

Three things that happen when you stop people-pleasing

When we stop pleasing people and start advocating for ourselves there will be three key shifts you will notice in your relationships.

1. You attract better quality relationships. You start to attract people that actually love you for who you are, not for what they get. Letting go of people-pleasing also means that sometimes we outgrow a friendship or relationship. Some people are in our lives for a season not for a lifetime.

2. Your current relationships become more balanced and joyful. The people that love us want the best for us and so often they want for us to speak up and ask for what we need. Letting go of people-pleasing creates more symbiotic and complementary relationships.

3. Your confidence and self-worth grows: When we can show our true self and advocate for ourselves in a balanced and healthy way our confidence in life and sense of self-worth increases. This increases our resilience in life, has a direct impact on our ability to experience joy and opens up opportunities that previously would pass us by.

I am so excited for you! I remember the huge shift implementing these strategies into my own life created for me and I am beyond excited that this possibility is available to you too. As mentioned, just keep trying and give it your best. Trust the process. Because if I can do this, so can you.

If you want to find out more about how I can support you on your journey from surviving to thriving get in touch for a complimentary session.

And because life is an art form, not a science, I want to leave you with this:

“Just never forget to be dexterous and deft.
And never mix up your right foot with your left.
And will you succeed?
Yes! You will, indeed!
(98 and 3/4 percent guaranteed.)”
Dr. Seuss, Oh, the Places You’ll Go!

Article written by Sophie K for Kidspot

Sophie K

About Sophie K

Sophie is a coach and creator of The Thrive Guide, a mother of two, a joy seeker and a lover of adventure. She helps her fellow humans to find more time, confidence and ultimately joy in their everyday lives through empowering them at their core.

She knows what it feels like to be stressed and overwhelmed; almost constantly. Feel like there aren’t enough hours in the day to do everything. Between her professional and personal life in the past there just wasn’t enough time or energy left for joy. The result? Life often seemed hard and complicated. Her mental and physical health suffered. The people she loved the most ended up getting the worst of her. Including herself.

It took a major life event for her to realize that she needed more. She wanted to feel at ease, be the best version of herself for her kids, make time for what was important to her and follow what brought her joy and happiness deep down. Life is just too short to spend it feeling unfulfilled.

She loves to laugh and see the funny side of life and has a deep interest in people, their stories and what makes them tick. She has been running her business since 2020 and is excited to help make this world a better place for all our generations to come.

Visit her website www.sophiek.co.nz for more or get in touch via hello@sophiek.co.nz to book a complimentary chat.

What To Know About Coming Off Contraception

Making the decision to start having kids or add to your family is an exciting time. Part of that decision may involve saying goodbye to contraception.

Once you’ve decided that the time is right, you may be keen to start trying for a baby straight away but there are some things that you might want to consider before ditching your contraception.

Planning for pregnancy might include giving yourself some time to make some healthy lifestyle changes, like giving up smoking, reducing alcohol intake, ensuring you’re eating a balanced diet and getting regular exercise.

You can also prepare your body for the demands of pregnancy by taking a folic acid supplement. The Ministry of Health recommends that when you plan to become pregnant you take a daily folic acid (folate) supplement for at least one month prior to conception and for 12 weeks after conceiving1 to help reduce the risk of neural tube defects (such as spina bifida).

What happens when I stop using contraception?

Once you’ve decided that the time has come to stop contraception, speak to your GP or healthcare provider for advice. Depending on your method of contraception (and bearing in mind that every person is different), it may take a while to conceive. Waiting until you experience signs of ovulation and see this settle down into a predictable cycle can help you better understand when you’re in your fertile phase.

Here is what you can expect when you come off different types of contraception. Speak to your GP or healthcare provider if you have any concerns.

Condoms

As condoms have no effect on ovulation, all you need to do is stop using them. The good thing is that if you have a change of heart or circumstance you can easily restart using them as long as they haven’t passed their expiry date.

The pill

After stopping the pill you may prefer to wait until your menstrual cycle returns to some sort of normality before trying to get pregnant (and use another form of contraception until then). Every woman is different so the amount of time before your menstrual cycle returns to “normal” will vary. Usually, it’s around 4-8 weeks after stopping the pill but it may be up to three months. In reality, you may be able to get pregnant as soon as you stop taking the pill regularly, especially if you were taking the progestogen-only form of the pill. Talk to your doctor for any additional advice.

IUD / Implant

Once your IUD or implant is removed, you are able to get pregnant straight away. Talk to your doctor when you have the device removed for any additional advice.

Vaginal ring

Ovulation usually resumes after 1-3 months after the removal of a vaginal ring. Talk to your doctor for any additional advice.

Birth control patch

After you stop using the patch, ovulation will usually resume within 1-3 months. Talk to your doctor for any additional advice.

Contraceptive injections

The resumption of ovulation after stopping this injectable birth control can take quite a lot longer than other forms of contraception. It may be up to 10 months or more, and for some women, it can take up to 18 months. Talk to your doctor for any additional advice.

Will it change how sex feels?

If you’re trying to conceive for the first time you may discover that sex takes on a whole new meaning and can even be more exciting. If you’ve been using a contraceptive that affects your cycle, you could experience changes while your hormones settle down. If you find that you are experiencing any discomfort, talk to your GP.

Waiting For The Storks by Katrina Nannestad | Kids Book Review

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The powerful new novel from master storyteller Katrina Nannestad, Waiting For The Storks, is a story about family lost and found, and the choices we make when we don’t have a choice at all.

“I don’t want to remember the truck, or the night I was taken, or the family I left behind. I am not a sad Polish girl. I am a good and happy German girl. I am. I am. I am.”

It’s the Second World War and Himmler’s Lebensborn Program is in full flight when eight-year-old Zofia Ulinski is kidnapped by the Germans. She has blonde hair and blue eyes, just like the other Polish children taken from their families and robbed of their names, their language, their heritage.

But when Zofia is adopted into a wealthy and loving German family, it is easier, it is safer to bury her past, deep down, so everything is forgotten. Until the Polish boy arrives. And the past comes back to haunt her.

Katrina Nannestad is the multi-award-winning author of We Are Wolves and Rabbit, Soldier, Angel, Thief.

Take a look at the reviews from our Young Readers for Waiting For The Storks by Katrina Nannestad below ⬇️

Book review from Kaitlyn, aged 12

This book was AMAZING!!!

I love it a lot because of the way Katrina Nannestad writes, it makes you feel like you are really there, it pulls you into the story, which is always enjoyable in a book. I have read some of her other books, and I loved them all, and this one is so good too. In fact, I enjoyed it so much that I couldn’t put it down and as a result, I finished it in one day!

Because I loved this book, there are so many positive points – here are a few (but no spoilers):

Waiting For The Storks by Katrina Nannestad

  • The main character, Zofia/Sophia is utterly likeable, which enhances the story.
  • The next chapter is mostly unpredictable, which just gives that urge to read on.
  • Most of the chapters end in cliffhangers, which makes you continue reading.

This book is just so good, however, I would recommend it to slightly older readers just because of the theme, and setting of the book, war, children getting kidnapped etc.

Book review from Michael, 12

Zofia Ulinski is a young Polish girl with blue eyes and blonde hair, and, unfortunately, she is living at the time of the German invasion of Poland. She gets kidnapped and sent to an orphanage, where she and a lot of other Polish and Russian children are taught to be good German children. Zofia is luckier than most of the other kids, because she gets adopted by a wealthy German family and gets treated like a princess. She is able to forget about the orphanage and Poland, but only for a while. Then her whole world comes crashing down.

Waiting For The Storks by Katrina Nannestad book review

The book really lets you feel what the Polish orphans would have felt, through Zofia’s eyes. The story takes place in Poland and Germany in the days of the Second World War, starting before the war begins in 1938 and going through to the year after the war when the Polish orphans were sent back to their country. It is based on the true stories of the Polish orphans who were robbed of their heritage, country, name and culture during the Second World War.

This book is well written, it is very clear and concise, and has a lot to say about the Polish kids the Germans kidnapped to build the “Empire”. I would recommend it to anyone who likes a good book to sit down and read for a couple of hours. As soon as I started reading it, I was hooked. It is a wonderful book, and I love it.

Book review from Jonathan, aged 12

Waiting for the Storks is a great book by Katrina Nannestad. It follows the story of a young polish girl getting kidnapped by Germans due to her blonde hair and blue eyes. She is robbed of her name, language and heritage. After being converted to the “perfect German princess” and being adopted by a wealthy and loving German family, it is easier and safer to bury her past, leading to her forgetting everything she once knew. But then, a polish boy arrives, and the past comes back to haunt her.

Waiting For The Storks by Katrina Nannestad

Throughout the book, you see the oppression of the Germans over the places they controlled and took over throughout World War 2 and you see the effects of the war on both the kidnapped territory and on the people of Germany.

This book has an interesting and easy-to-follow story, with obvious links to real life. The story of the book has a lot of basis in fact and can teach you a bit about world history. The book also shows how small and tiny our problems today can be, compared to the problems that these people faced during this dark time. Throughout the book, we see what the people kidnapped go through and we see how their lives were changed and completely overridden, losing everything they once knew. This book teaches us a message and shows us what happened during World War 2.

Book review from Ellen, aged 13

I had the delightful opportunity to read Waiting for the Storks by Katarina Nannestad. Thank you to Kidspot who gave me this opportunity to read this fabulous book.

Waiting for the Storks’ setting is in Poland in WWII, where Germans have taken over. The main character, Zofia Ulinski, is an 8-year-old who loves playing games and learning about new stuff. Zofia lives with her parents and her Aunty Barbara before she is taken by the Germans because she has blonde hair and blue eyes. Zofia Ulinski is put in the back of a van with other Polish children who have been taken from their families, and have been stripped of their culture, language and even their names.

Waiting For The Storks by Katrina Nannestad

After all she has gone through she is adopted into a wealthy German family which helps her forget about her Polish past, until she meets the new Polish boy who has arrived, and her past comes back to bite her.

This book is about losing family members, family members going off to war and how badly kids were treated back in the war.

I recommend this to 11-15 year olds who like reading about war and history.

Book review from Olliver, aged 13

Waiting for the Storks is about a polish girl called Zofia Ulinski who is taken from her home by Nazis. Zofia is taken to a sort of boarding school and learns German culture and language. At the school, her name is changed from Zofia Ulinski to Sophia Ullman. She is adopted by a German family and forgets all about her polish life. Two years later a polish boy arrives as a slave on one of her friends’ farms and Sophia starts to remember her past.

This book is well-written for children of my age. I found it easy to read and the story was very interesting. I completed reading the book in two days as I wanted to find out what happened in the end. I hope others enjoy this book as much as I did.

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Funny Kid Catastrophe by Matt Stanton | Kids Book Review

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Every kid wants to laugh, but Max is the boy who can make it happen. He’s also the boy who absolutely, definitely, does not under any circumstances want a cat. So why did Mum and Dad just bring one home?

Max is the funny kid but now a cat is here to ruin his life!

Cat bums, cat claws, ticklish cats, piano-playing cats, cats that will run away and cats that won’t (oh, and a jealous Duck in a toilet jacuzzi) are just some of the things in store for Max and his friends in this Funny Kid adventure!

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Take a look at the reviews from our Young Readers for Funny Kid Catastrophe by Matt Stanton below ⬇️

Book review from Leo, 9

Funny Kid: Catastrophe, by Matt Stanton, is an awesome book about a boy [called Max] who is not a fan of cats, but ends up having one as a family pet.

Max tries to come up with ways to get rid of the cat and it is really funny!

I really enjoyed this book. It made me laugh, especially the duck in the toilet! I liked the cute cat character as well.

I would recommend this book to my friends and I will definitely be reading it again.

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Book review from Kyle, 8

This book is about a boy called Funny Kid who wants to be First Kid of Redhill. His mum and dad got him a cat but he hates cats and thinks it is there to kill him. He does alot of funny pranks and silly things to try get rid of the cat.

I loved reading this book, I just wanted to keep reading. I like the funny parts with testing tickling ears, talking to his duck and cat. It made me laugh a few times with some of the parts, especially the duck in the toilet with his dad! It has an awesome ending. The whole book was really interesting and fun to read. I asked my mum if I could get the whole set to read now as I loved it! This book reminds me of me and how I love joking and pranks. I would make everyone read this book.

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Note from mum …

I think this book is a winner! Kyle would run up to me and show me pieces in the book or go back and re-read pieces to me that really stood out. He was so involved in the book, to get him to put it down for bed was sometimes a problem, he was attached to it!!

There was one part [about] how one of Funny Kid’s friends has ticklish ears, and he came over to read the part and had to test the whole family on seeing who had ticklish ears it was a great laugh!!

He asked me if he could get the whole Funny Kid collection, that is how much he loved this book!! Thank you for choosing Kyle, he had the best time reading this book!

Book review from Fin, aged 11

Funny Kid Catastrophe by Matt Stanton was a hilarious book.

Max is a boy who hates cats and for some reason his Mum thought it was a great idea to get him one. Max can’t understand why his Mum has done this. At first Max tries to start thinking of ways to get rid of the cat, but nothing seems like it’s going to work. This cat isn’t going anywhere.

His friends soon discover Max has a cat and see the opportunity to make some viral cat videos. Max started off not caring what anyone did with the cat, but one day something happens that changes his mind.

Funny Kid Catastrophe by Matt Stanton book review

This book is full of cat puns and funny events. I would highly recommend Funny Kid Catastrophe for kids who like to laugh and maybe to anyone that thinks they hate cats!

Book review from Zara, aged 11

This book is about a boy called Max, whose mum is running in the election to be mayor which means his parents are really busy. So to keep him company, his parents brought him a cat.

This kids’ fiction book is a great read for ages 7 to 12. Personally, I really enjoyed this book. It really explained the true life of a child. The moral of the story is, never judge a book by its cover and I would love to read the rest of this series.

My message to the author: Maybe you could explore deeper into Max’s friends’ point of view and the way that they think of these funny situations – I think that if it was to be a series I would be sure to read it.

Funny Kid Catastrophe by Matt Stanton

Overall I think this was a great book and that everyone should read it.

Book review from Eva, aged 9

This book has mixed emotions at the start, but Max – the main character – actually decides to start enjoying the [cat’s] company, as his little sister Rosy is [only] a baby.

Catastrophe (the cat) is an adorable Siamese breed by the look of the cover. Max is thinking he is first kid because his mum is in the voting panel for mayor of their town, but he isn’t yet and soon discovers that they got the cat because of the vote.

His pet Duck isn’t too happy with Catastrophe either.

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Crunch by Kayla Miller | Kids Book Review

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Kayla Miller, the New York Times bestselling author-illustrator, returns with a new Olive story! In the new graphic novel Crunch, Olive is balancing the too-many things she wants to do with the too-few hours in the day to do them … When everything adds up, suddenly it’s crunch time!

It’s no secret that Olive loves trying new things. Between taking guitar lessons, making a short film, joining Berry Scouts and leading the charge on her school’s dress code reform, Olive has her hands full! But she enjoys being busy so staying on track with her jam-packed schedule should be no problem … right?

As weeks fly by, it gets harder and harder for Olive to find time for her activities, never mind time for herself. Will she be able to accomplish her goals, or will all her sizzle turn to fizzle?

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Take a look at the reviews from our Young Readers for Crunch by Kayla Miller below ⬇️

Book review from Kyra, 9

I have really enjoyed reading this book, it is funny and it makes me feel happy. The thing I like about it, is that every page is illustrated like a comic and you can easily see who is talking, instead of like a normal book where it has to tell you who is talking each time.

I also loved how Olive supported all of her friends, especially Willow.

I recommend this book to anyone who loves graphic novels.

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Book review from Ihaia, aged 9

Crunch is the fifth graphic novel in the ‘Click’ series by Kayla Miller. In this book, Olive tries to do too many activities all at once – guitar, making a mini movie for the film fest and accidentally joining the Berry Scouts. Because she’s so busy making her mini movie she forgets to do her guitar practice. Then she doesn’t earn her Berry Scout badge.

What will she do? Can she handle all these things at once? To find out read Crunch by Kayla Miller.

Crunch by Kayla Miller book review

I liked reading Crunch because at the end you got to “watch” the mini movie that Olive made. Olive is a good friend and she learns that sometimes you just can’t do everything. Her character is easy to relate to as Olive goes through a lot of the same things that my friends and I do.

I would rate it 4 out of 5 stars. If you enjoy this book, don’t forget to go and find the rest of the books in the series.

Book review from Abigail, 9

Crunch by Kayla Miller continues the story of Olive. She loves to help others and really enjoys it. She has offered to help her friend Willow with berry scouts and her school with the dress code and also has loads of her own jobs too. Her friends see that she is overwhelmed and offer to help her out. Olive realises that sometimes it’s okay to say No and take care of herself too.

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Book review from Dani, aged 11

This was a great book about Olive who is at intermediate and involves herself in too many activities and ends up a bit stressed, which is easy to relate to, and teaches a lesson in managing commitments.

I love this series by Kayla Miller, they’re my favourite comic style and Olives adventures are fun to read about.

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Book review from Tomas, aged 10

Crunch is about a teenage girl called Olive. Just like many children in NZ, Olive is very busy with different activities after school. Olive’s jam-packed schedule may or may not allow her to make the movie she really wants to do. Read this book to see if Olive makes the movie or not.

I believe this book is aimed at young teens, probably more for girls and people who enjoy graphic novels.

Crunch by Kayla Miller book review

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